My 8th grade daughter wants a pair of wedges for a mother/daughter fancy event around graduation. Although she gets good grades, is in student council and national junior honor society, and has worked really hard the past few years to make it into the highschool she wants to go to I dont know if these shoes that she has been begging for are an appropriate height. I personaly think these Toms wedges look like hooker/streetwalker shoes (they are 3 inches with a 1 inch platform). Many of the other girls at her school wear 5 and 6 inch heels, which I think is ridiculous but my daughter is constanly asking why I care so much and can't just let her fit in. Any thoughts???