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Do You Talk To Your Kids About Sexting?

Powerful Anti-Sexting Ad Is a Great Way to Start the Conversation With Your Kids (VIDEO)

by Lindsay Mannering

teen sextingThere's no such thing as sending "just one photo", and unfortunately, more and more teens are learning that the hard way. One topless photo sent to a caring high school boyfriend can easily be forwarded thousands of times in a matter of hours. Suddenly, that risque picture you thought you'd text has turned into a living nightmare. If there's anything to be more wary of than hormonal teenagers, it's hormonal teenagers with smartphones.

As parents, how can you get the point across that there's no such thing as just one photo? A new sexting ad demonstrates how it can ruin a teenager's life, and the short video could be an important first step in starting the conversation with your teen, or god only knows, tween, about the dangers of sexting.

Helping our kids understand that there are scary and unfortunate consequences when sharing photos online or over text is becoming a priority. Sometimes it's easy to forget that the person in the photo, especially if you don't know them, is actually a sentient being. Just look at the Steubenville rape case -- the photos of Jane Doe were circulated and re-posted without much hesitation, if any.

But the more our kids understand that one poor decision, be it sending a sext or forwarding one that was sent to you, can really affect their lives, or their peers' lives, the better.

Do you and how do you talk to your kids about the perils of sexting?

by on Mar. 26, 2013 at 1:09 PM
Replies (11-20):
Maggielaggin
by on Mar. 28, 2013 at 6:35 PM

Absolutely.  It's opened up the door to discussions about how some of her friends have, and why it's not a good idea. 

I've talked to her about how teens can get into a lot of trouble, because of the child pornography factory, and also to imagine thousands of people seeing pictures that she instagrams or sends to her friends via her phone or ipod. 

Barabell
by Barbara on Mar. 28, 2013 at 8:31 PM

I have had some brief talks about it. He doesn't have a girlfriend yet, and I intend to have more detailed talks once he does.

fantasticfour
by Grumpy on Mar. 28, 2013 at 11:25 PM

 I've talked to them and they are aware that if I find one picture on their phone that is innapropriate then their phone is gone.  Forever.  And ever.  I did find a picture of a girl in a bra on one of my daughter's phones with the caption does this bra fit me?  I called the girl's mother and made my daughter delete the photo.  It was a legit question, she was in a fitting room and didn't know if it was fititng right but her mom took care of it.

corgiesX2
by Member on Mar. 29, 2013 at 10:15 AM

Yes and she still did not learn!!  (Mom and Dad don't know anything!)  ha!

She went and did it again and we ended up getting police involved because the boy was over 18.  My daughter is 14!  The stuff I read was just so graphic I was shocked my daughter even knew the stuff I was reading! 

It seems that the one on one conversation with investigators helped even though dh and I had been saying all the same things....

dd still is having a hard time understanding why this is so wrong....hopefully it will click soon enough. btw, her phone and fb privilages have been taken away until futher notice...

Maggielaggin
by on Mar. 29, 2013 at 2:42 PM

It is so frustrating, when they get to the age where they value and respect what their friends are thinking and doing, more than what their parents and other people in authority are trying to instill in them.   Regarding things of this nature.  Because a year ago, this talk was successful with my DD.  Today, it probably wouldn't be.

I feel like I had a strong foothold with my daughter, regarding these things, but now she is running with a group of kids who are wild and she is following suit.  She is not living with me right now, she is with her dad.  He monitors all her activity on the Internet, and searches her room regularly...because she's proven that she needs more supervision and guidance than we had previously thought.  I hope she doesn't have to learn about the dangers of sexting the hard way.  Lord knows we have talked to her about it til we were blue in the face.

juno1
by on Mar. 31, 2013 at 11:02 PM

You should all be aware of Snapchat.  It is the new texting method many kids are using.  Seems to be designed for sexting.  (Although the company says that it is really just to share those "fleeting moments"..yeah right.

The image or text disappears after a predetermined amount of time ,1-10 seconds  sender decides how long the image will remain before dissolving.  Screen shots can still be taken if the receiver is very quick and the sender will get notification that a screen shot was taken.  The companies are responding the problems for the sexter....bravo...  :(

zacmacsmomm
by Bronze Member on Apr. 1, 2013 at 8:50 AM

You know, I really haven't.  At least not in detail.  I probably should.  I mean, my daughter knows what it is, and I've told her that it's NOT ok at all, but not real in depth conversations about it.  She will be a freshman next year, so yea, I should probably get on that :)

juno1
by on Apr. 1, 2013 at 1:50 PM

Here's the thing.... If she (or he) has snapchat you will never find the picture.  Make sure she isn't using snapchat...and then check the phone for pictures..  

Quoting fantasticfour:

 I've talked to them and they are aware that if I find one picture on their phone that is innapropriate then their phone is gone.  Forever.  And ever.  I did find a picture of a girl in a bra on one of my daughter's phones with the caption does this bra fit me?  I called the girl's mother and made my daughter delete the photo.  It was a legit question, she was in a fitting room and didn't know if it was fititng right but her mom took care of it.


fantasticfour
by Grumpy on Apr. 1, 2013 at 9:59 PM
What is snapchat? Any picture taken by the camera on the phone is stored only, even if they don't save it on the phone.
Quoting juno1:

Here's the thing.... If she (or he) has snapchat you will never find the picture.  Make sure she isn't using snapchat...and then check the phone for pictures..  

Quoting fantasticfour:

 I've talked to them and they are aware that if I find one picture on their phone that is innapropriate then their phone is gone.  Forever.  And ever.  I did find a picture of a girl in a bra on one of my daughter's phones with the caption does this bra fit me?  I called the girl's mother and made my daughter delete the photo.  It was a legit question, she was in a fitting room and didn't know if it was fititng right but her mom took care of it.


juno1
by on Apr. 3, 2013 at 7:53 PM

Snapchat is a new way kids ( and others) are texting.  They set up the parameters within snapchat for the text/picture to disappear - usually after 1-10 seconds.  For example, if I have snapchat I can send something racy, set to self destruct after a certain number of seconds...it wil be received like a normal text/picture and then 2 seconds later.. poof, it simply evaporates.   The company that offers it describes it as something to share those fleeting moments...yup...right...  According to my kids....it is all about sexting.  With snapchat they can send things that they normally wouldn't because it evaporates and "can't be tracked by mom or dad".  Thing is, they also think that because it disappears it alleviates the problem of forwarding/saving pics/messages.  In fact, if someone is quick enough they can even take a screen shot of a snapchat.  So..if they have snapchat, pictures and messages are not stored anywhere.  You won't see them no matter how hard you search....  see what I mean?  

Just realized, it sounds like I am talking about my kids using it.... they aren't.  I am using 'they' for whomever is using it...:)

Quoting fantasticfour:

What is snapchat? Any picture taken by the camera on the phone is stored only, even if they don't save it on the phone.
Quoting juno1:

Here's the thing.... If she (or he) has snapchat you will never find the picture.  Make sure she isn't using snapchat...and then check the phone for pictures..  

Quoting fantasticfour:

 I've talked to them and they are aware that if I find one picture on their phone that is innapropriate then their phone is gone.  Forever.  And ever.  I did find a picture of a girl in a bra on one of my daughter's phones with the caption does this bra fit me?  I called the girl's mother and made my daughter delete the photo.  It was a legit question, she was in a fitting room and didn't know if it was fititng right but her mom took care of it.



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