I have rules I expect my teens to follow and I expect their friends to follow them when they are in my house.
Have you noticed that the kids in your neighborhood avoid your house and your kids because you have rules? Where as someone you know to not have rules the kids LOVE to congregate over there?
I don't expect the kids to sit on their hands and be absolutely quiet, but I do expect them to respect my property and keep the noise down to a dull roar or go outside.
I feel kinda bad for my kids like they are being left out, but I don't want them to get mixed up with the bad apples. Too long to go into details, but if you recognize my name I have posted about my friend and her kids living with us.
Hanging around them during the daytime or over here at night is one thing, but its 2 am do you know where your kids are and what they are doing???