DD is pregnant, question for Parents of Teenage boys would you do this?
My daughter is pregnant. Now she and the boy broke up months ago, both are 17. DD hasn't even offically been able to tell him she is pregnant (she is sure he knows from his friends) because he wont speak to her because and I kid you not "He is worried his mom will take away his video games for talking to her". We dont have an address or phone number, they are not listed either. I found out today that the parents know, they were told by a teacher and responded that they dont care, its DDs fault and their son will have nothing to do with it. DD wants to give it up for adoption, but the boys parents wont even let him sign off. He wont speak to her at all. The baby will be born during the summer and has a rare genetic condition of ther spine which the boys obviously has as do his older siblings from information we've been able to gather. We went to a lawyer who told us we can write a letting notifying them of the pregnancy and request for the boy to sign off on an adoption. But in his professional expirence its highly unlikely they would even respond. They have buired their heads into the sand and refuse to look up. He said there is a massive backlog of cases in our county with patiernity and those on state aid get handled first (we aren't, and DD because she is adopted cannot get state medical even pregnant). We've spoke to several lawyers all who say the same thing and on top of that have told us in their experience middle class parents who are this set on their son not being held accountable will do anything including sending him away to family in other states, even after paternity is determined. However, in our states DD cannot give the baby up for adoption without his ok, meaning it will also have to remain in her custody.
Anyhow, numerous people we've spoken to lawyers, the county, the state, all say they hear of this happening all the time and that its worse in the middle class because people have money to send there sons away and things like that. Now, Im not stupid. I know fathers dont always help or stick around. I just never thought it would be this bad.
I know the spelling and grammer is probably horrible, but Im shaking and just so tired right now.