My daughter is 18. Her sperm donor walked out of her life when she was 10. Along with the rest of his family. I know this hurt her alot, & there was never a reason given to her. He just quit calling & quit coming to get her when he was supposed to.
She told me the other day she was going to write him on facebook again ( she had done this before & he blocked her). I told her what I thought, but that she is an adult & it is up to her. Well she wrote him yesterday & he called her last night.
He called her from a private #, meaning he can have her # but she can't have his.
They talked for 10 min, & he told her he wants to meet her. & that they are not going to play the blame game, & he will not argue with her.. REALLY the blame game Ummmm no one to blame in this but himself.
She asked me to go with her, & I told her while I support her wanting to talk to him & ask for him answers, I do not want anything to do with him & that under no circumstances is he allowed at this house & she could ask my mom to go with her.
I already know what is going to happen he will hurt her again & I just can't watch her go thru it again. I have so many mixed emotions on her having anything to do with him again.
He does have a son from another marriage, he & does have something to do with him, & has never not been in his life, Which aggravates me also.
I already know he will blame me for him walking out on her, he did that with his family, told them I would not allow him to see her, even though we had a court order, I could not have stopped him if I wanted to. He told his friends, & current gf that I have turned her against him. I told my daughter this, & she said she will not allow him to blame me, but I really do not think she has a choice in it.
My best friend says I am wrong to not allow him at our house, I think shes nuts,
Am I wrong ? What am I supposed to do ? I support my kid in what ever she chooses to do, but she is an adult, so I should not have to speak to or see this man ever. He hurt my kid, & I do not want to see him do it again