See what CafeMoms are saying about saving time this holiday season..
My daughter is 18. Her sperm donor walked out of her life when she was 10. Along with the rest of his family. I know this hurt her alot, & there was never a reason given to her. He just quit calling & quit coming to get her when he was supposed to.
She told me the other day she was going to write him on facebook again ( she had done this before & he blocked her). I told her what I thought, but that she is an adult & it is up to her. Well she wrote him yesterday & he called her last night.
He called her from a private #, meaning he can have her # but she can't have his.
They talked for 10 min, & he told her he wants to meet her. & that they are not going to play the blame game, & he will not argue with her.. REALLY the blame game Ummmm no one to blame in this but himself.
She asked me to go with her, & I told her while I support her wanting to talk to him & ask for him answers, I do not want anything to do with him & that under no circumstances is he allowed at this house & she could ask my mom to go with her.
I already know what is going to happen he will hurt her again & I just can't watch her go thru it again. I have so many mixed emotions on her having anything to do with him again.
He does have a son from another marriage, he & does have something to do with him, & has never not been in his life, Which aggravates me also.
I already know he will blame me for him walking out on her, he did that with his family, told them I would not allow him to see her, even though we had a court order, I could not have stopped him if I wanted to. He told his friends, & current gf that I have turned her against him. I told my daughter this, & she said she will not allow him to blame me, but I really do not think she has a choice in it.
My best friend says I am wrong to not allow him at our house, I think shes nuts,
Am I wrong ? What am I supposed to do ? I support my kid in what ever she chooses to do, but she is an adult, so I should not have to speak to or see this man ever. He hurt my kid, & I do not want to see him do it again