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Pranking Would you do this or not?

Posted by on Apr. 6, 2013 at 3:49 PM
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Addition: My friend found out that the txts that were deleted were to a friend (that had already left a friends house) about pranking a teacher that the group saw while out for a walk.  She believes that it was her girls idea since she has gotten in trouble for pranking before. My friend took away txting from her daughters phone but I told her that she should maybe take her phone TOTALLY away.  What would be best since now she found her dd was deleting them for this reason?

 

 A friend of mine has a daughter my dd's age (14) that deleted some txts from her phone. She is talking about taking away her daughters txting plan and I agree with her & said: If you have nothing to hide you hide nothing. Do you agree and would you take away your teens txting plan if he or she did this?  She did it before & her Mom told her if she deleted them again she would take away txting. Personally I think she is right, but she is thinking of giving her another chance.  I say no.

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atlmom2
by Susie on Apr. 6, 2013 at 3:55 PM
14 yo doesn't really need a phone and certainly doesn't need the internet or texting.
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shorty13417
by on Apr. 6, 2013 at 4:30 PM

my 16(almost 17) yo son has a phone but he can't text on it.  we blocked it when we started his plan.

Cindy18
by Bronze Member on Apr. 6, 2013 at 4:52 PM

I agree totally. 

My kids don't get phones from me. Only when they can pay for the phones and bills themselves can they have one. 

Your friend needs to stick to her guns and do what she said she would do. No 2nd chances, actually that was the DD's 2nd chance.

Quoting atlmom2:

14 yo doesn't really need a phone and certainly doesn't need the internet or texting.


~~CINDY

luckysevenwow
by Platinum Member on Apr. 6, 2013 at 5:02 PM
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My kids only had texting on their phones, and I never felt the need to go through them. If I suspected something I wouldn't hesitate, but again I can only think of once or twice where I did. 

lucky2Beeme
by Gold Member on Apr. 6, 2013 at 6:11 PM

My kids never had texting until college when they could pay for it. They didn't get a cell until they were driving at 16.5.

bizzeemom2717
by on Apr. 6, 2013 at 7:59 PM
The same, my motto which my kids, "Don't ever give me a reason" my DS age 20 has had a phone with texting since 13, never once have I felt the "need" to check his texts. He's now away as a soph in college 600 miles from home. My DD age 15 I've checked twice and never found anything incriminating. I haven't felt the need to check in a while over 6 months. So, we don't have the do not delete rule, diff for me to say if I agree or not? It would depend on why the girl was deleting her texts?

Quoting luckysevenwow:

My kids only had texting on their phones, and I never felt the need to go through them. If I suspected something I wouldn't hesitate, but again I can only think of once or twice where I did. 

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MamaSnaps
by on Apr. 6, 2013 at 8:18 PM

If this is her first offense? I'd have a talk with her and give her the chance. 
I have moble watchdog on all 3 of my teens phones so it doesn't matter if they delete of not I get eveyrthing. I think it costs me something stupid like $15 a month for all 3 phones.

I am sorry, but I couldn't live without even my 13 year old having a phone. When he first came to us he didn't have one and it was a real problem for lots of activities and when he is with his mom, etc. There were after school fiasco's where he couldn't call us because no one had a phone. There are no payphones anywhere downtown anymore-remember we live in a TINY TINY town here... They are often out hiking and boarding and no where near a phone. NEED was a huge factor there! Watchdog lets me limit when he can use it,  what he can access and I can locate his phone at any time...  

atlmom2
by Susie on Apr. 6, 2013 at 8:24 PM
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Never an issue not having one. So many have them they could borrow if they were desperate. Kids do not need them. They think they do. We all survived and didn't have them as kids.


Quoting MamaSnaps:

If this is her first offense? I'd have a talk with her and give her the chance. 
I have moble watchdog on all 3 of my teens phones so it doesn't matter if they delete of not I get eveyrthing. I think it costs me something stupid like $15 a month for all 3 phones.

I am sorry, but I couldn't live without even my 13 year old having a phone. When he first came to us he didn't have one and it was a real problem for lots of activities and when he is with his mom, etc. There were after school fiasco's where he couldn't call us because no one had a phone. There are no payphones anywhere downtown anymore-remember we live in a TINY TINY town here... They are often out hiking and boarding and no where near a phone. NEED was a huge factor there! Watchdog lets me limit when he can use it,  what he can access and I can locate his phone at any time...  


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my2kidsmom9498
by Bronze Member on Apr. 6, 2013 at 8:52 PM

My kids are in tons of sports and other activities, they know the phones they have are MINE and not theirs and they are tools and not toys.  My ds had one in 4th grade, he is now a freshman in HS, dd was in 6th grade and now is in college.  I never had any issues with either kid,  I taught them right away to respect the privalage of the phone, and with out the phones, they knew they could not do as much. 

MamaSnaps
by on Apr. 6, 2013 at 8:54 PM

I had so much trouble with him not having one... And then trying to find him because he had no way to call and we were unsure where he'd go to when he couldn't get a hold of us. He doesn't go to school in the same town where we live, but about 10 miles away and is transported. We live in the country and the kids are often in the woods or at the creek or the lake or building something somewhere. There's no friend and no phone out there. We have to be in contact with them and they have to be able to call for help at any time. 

The 13y/o is also not ours. He's a foster of sorts. This was one way to give him access to talk with his mom and siblings privately and to keep his mom from flipping (which she did) because we have too many phones and she has to call around them to find him. We've given her a main line to talk to him and he also is incontact with his brother who is placed elsewhere and his grown sister. Definitely a convenience for me there. 

Now do they need texting and internet? Nope. I've let them having texting because we had an unlimited text package on our plan. I can control it with the watchdog program. The 13 y/o uses it to talk to his mom, brother and sister. The 15 y/o uses texting to talk to me and DH and that's about it. The 17 y/o uses it with everyone and rarely calls anyone. 

On top of that I can check their location via GPS at any time which is something I couldn't do with the other kids when they were this young and I sure wish I had been able to do. I know where they are and they can't get away with saying "I am at so-and-so's house" and then be elsewhere. And believe me, I pay attention. 

 My older children got a phone that would only dial 3 numbers-mine, DH's and 911 when they were this young. Yes, I need mine to have it. It's a safety thing.  

Quoting atlmom2:

Never an issue not having one. So many have them they could borrow if they were desperate. Kids do not need them. They think they do. We all survived and didn't have them as kids.


Quoting MamaSnaps:

If this is her first offense? I'd have a talk with her and give her the chance. 
I have moble watchdog on all 3 of my teens phones so it doesn't matter if they delete of not I get eveyrthing. I think it costs me something stupid like $15 a month for all 3 phones.

I am sorry, but I couldn't live without even my 13 year old having a phone. When he first came to us he didn't have one and it was a real problem for lots of activities and when he is with his mom, etc. There were after school fiasco's where he couldn't call us because no one had a phone. There are no payphones anywhere downtown anymore-remember we live in a TINY TINY town here... They are often out hiking and boarding and no where near a phone. NEED was a huge factor there! Watchdog lets me limit when he can use it,  what he can access and I can locate his phone at any time...  



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