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How do you deal with your teens and basic chores? SD knows her room is her responsibility but tonight DH and SD got into it because DH told SD to clean up after dinner. She told him NO, and asked why he didn't do it. He said he had to study and had school work to do. Then she asked why I couldn't do it. DH responded that I was the one who fixed dinner and so she could clean up. She said her role was to eat dinner, not clean up. DH was getting annoyed quick. She continued to argue with him about it for a few more minutes. She is NEVER asked to vacuum and hasn't been asked to clean up the kitchen in MONTHS. There wasn't even a lot to do, put the lids on the left over bowls, put the condiments away, rinse dishes and put them in the dishwasher and then wipe down the kitchen countertops. When she finally did it, it took her a whole 5 minutes.

What chores do you expect your kids to do?

by on Apr. 9, 2013 at 11:01 PM
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by on Apr. 10, 2013 at 10:14 AM
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My kids all have one set chore, usually the things I don't like to do, take out the trash, feed and water the chickens, clean the litter box...things I had to do as a child that I swore I would never do as an adult lol

They are expected to pick up after themselves, keep their rooms resonably clean and not make a bigger mess for me, but if they are asked to do something I expect it to be done and without argument. Had your DD pulled that ion my house there would have been no back and forth. Do it, or no dinner for you tomorrow. I'd have walked away at that point and either she'd have done it or she won't eat the next day. Her choice. 

by on Apr. 10, 2013 at 12:39 PM
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My DS worked as a tutor while in HS he was busy with academics and debate like you and I both agree with kids school was his job and he worked his butt off and got into his first choice school on a partial scholarship. My DD is 15 and does babysit on weekend nights occasionally and in the summer. Like my DS school and athletics will be her focus until college.

Quoting lakerfan420:

I agree with this. My kids do have to clean up after themselves though. We've always said we didn't want our kids working while in school. Getting good grades and being involved in extracurricular activities is their job so they can hopefully go to college. My oldest does tutor, but she's extremely advanced and probably could work an outside job and still do great. She's almost 15 and wants to work, so we'll cross that bridge when we come to it. My next two are 13 and 11, and definitely need time to study and probably will throughout high school. I would hate to see them drop sports or music just so they could work and still get good grades. They are very enterprising though and will do stuff at my mom's house for extra cash and made a bundle this year shoveling snow around the neighborhood. To me that should be the extent of kids working as 18 years go by way too fast and they have the rest of their lives to work.

Quoting bizzeemom2717:

I'm not big into "making" kids do chores, only kids once, reason my kids don't work outside the home except for babysitting either while they are in high school, plenty of time to do that as an adult. I know I am in the minority in that opinion

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by on Apr. 10, 2013 at 3:28 PM

My kids alway fight when they do there chores!

by Shauna on Apr. 10, 2013 at 5:02 PM
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If I ask them to do a specific household chore~ they do it. They also have to keep their rooms clean and clean up after themselves in general living areas.

by Kimberly on Apr. 10, 2013 at 11:09 PM
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My sons are responsible for cleaning their bathroom, unloading the dishwasher and mowing the lawns.   They now do their own laundry, including their towels and linens.     They do other things to help around the house, of course.   

The fact that she feels her role is to eat dinner shows how entitled she feels.   I would give her the responsibility of cleaning up after dinner every night.  

by Bronze Member on Apr. 11, 2013 at 10:49 AM

My kids are a little older youngest living at home is 18 and then his 21 yr old sister is still at home as she just graduated collage and started a full time job. They have chores or jobs around the house. DD cooks dinner for her brother when Dh and I are on afternoons(his choice he will do the dishes if she cooks). They both are responsible for thier spaces DS has two rooms upstairs his bedroom then his cave as we call it. He has his tv video games drafting table etc in ther and is his retreat. DD has the basement save the laundry room as her space. As for laundry if its not in the laundry when I do laundry they have to dot hier own. DD keeps the car clean and has for yr she like swashing it and keeping it clean. They also know if they are asked to do something they damm well better do it as they don't pay rent to live here.

by on Apr. 11, 2013 at 11:17 AM
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All my children do chores daily unless they are sick.

4 year old - help with laundry
8 year old - clean hallways & feed cats
11 year old - clean kids bathroom & care for guinea pig
15 year old - clean living room & litter boxes & feed dog
18 year old - clean kitchen & laundry

They also all clean their rooms, tidy their messes, and bring laundry upstairs
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by on Jun. 21, 2013 at 4:05 PM
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I just had to make a more concrete chore schedule. They rotate garbage anddishwasher duties.  They have to clean their own bedrooms and bathrooms.  They alternate vacuuming common areas.  

We sat and discussed it.  I told them I was open suggestions and limited negiotation but I was final law.  We all agreed to chores and consequences with little bitching and minor

by on Jun. 21, 2013 at 7:20 PM

Chores are done once a week!!

If not done; there is no going out with friends!!!

by on Jun. 21, 2013 at 10:30 PM
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my boys have a time by which the chores have to be done if not they lose their phones and internet for the night

Quoting Monsita:

Chores are done once a week!!

If not done; there is no going out with friends!!!

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