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she finally picked a college

Posted by on Apr. 25, 2013 at 7:20 AM
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She picked the one thats 1 hr away without traffic and 2 with traffic there is always traffic. Why am I nervous already so happy she will dorm there starting to think she will wonder into nyc and take subway alone at night she loves city.(always goes there from home with friends on express bus)  How do u put your worries aside I no I cant control her any advise?

by on Apr. 25, 2013 at 7:20 AM
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lucky2Beeme
by Gold Member on Apr. 25, 2013 at 7:26 AM
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You don't ever put your worries aside when you have kids. You will always worry. I would talk to her about safety. It's just not smart to go anywhere alone at night. In the city you're just more vulnerable. My son went to college in Boston. He is 6'4" broad shouldered football player. He got jumped 1st time he went out alone. He learned very quickly to travel with friends. I was so proud to hear from another mom in town that the boys had told the girls they knew to call them if they needed to be escorted home.She said many nights my son had left what he was doing to walk her daughter back to her dorm. The kids really do look out for each other. I used to ask him to call me Sunday night after his escapades. Was much easier to hear he was OK than to worry what was might happen. Congrats on her making a choice !

Surround yourself with people that add to your life not subtract from it.

atlmom2
by Susie on Apr. 25, 2013 at 7:45 AM
You have to adjust and not worry much. I didn't sit at home wondering on a Saturday night what she was doing. My dd is 92 lbs and 4 ft 10. She survived her freshman year. I pick her up Saturday. She goes to college 7 hours away.
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fantasticfour
by Grumpy on Apr. 25, 2013 at 9:00 AM
Just keep in touch with her. You're always going to worry.
Not_A_Native
by Bronze Member on Apr. 25, 2013 at 10:04 AM
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Being an adult, I would assume you have taught her how to live in "the city."  My older daughter went to NYU, right in the middle of the city - and it was 3000 miles from home!  At that age, you need to trust you did what you needed to do to raise her right, to teach her some street smarts, and that she will do the right thing.  Nothing else you CAN do.

boys2men2soon
by Kimberly on Apr. 25, 2013 at 11:07 AM
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Have faith that you raised her to be cautious and safe.   She has to spread her wings......and so do you.




MrsBLB
by on Apr. 25, 2013 at 12:33 PM
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This.

Quoting boys2men2soon:

Have faith that you raised her to be cautious and safe.   She has to spread her wings......and so do you.


MrsBLB
by on Apr. 25, 2013 at 12:34 PM

Hugs to you.

Barabell
by Barbara on Apr. 25, 2013 at 1:03 PM
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This.

Quoting boys2men2soon:

Have faith that you raised her to be cautious and safe.   She has to spread her wings......and so do you.

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drfink
by Emily on Apr. 25, 2013 at 2:24 PM


Quoting boys2men2soon:

Have faith that you raised her to be cautious and safe.   She has to spread her wings......and so do you.

agree

my daughter went away 700 miles away...I worried but she is healthy and well

supercarp
by on Apr. 25, 2013 at 2:44 PM

Once she is out of your house you have to accept that you can't control her. You still have influence, but she controls how much influence you have. You have to hope that all your teaching over the years sank in somewhere. People who ignore their kids until they are teens are in big trouble.

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