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EDUCATION or HEALTH (SPORTS)??????HELP?????

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A little over a year ago, my husband's work forced us to move and leave an Excellent School.  The school we came to (recommended by DH's employees) turned out to be a joke.  They have been a focus school the last 2 years, due to poor test scores, my son that has a LD, has not had his IEP requirements met since day one, and the schools excuse is they don't have the funding or resources, and the teachers avoid any type of communication.

Last year our county (12 miles from my house) opened a Charter academy, and after talking to the Superintendent, attending information session, and getting feedback from other parents that have children attending, we have decided it is best for our children's education.  

My boys have never really taken an interest in sports, so the fact that they do not offer sports yet, wasn't a priority for us.  Then for some miraculous reason my eldest (14, in the 8th Grade) decides to sign up for Track.  He seems to take a liking to it, and so far is the only sport I haven't heard, "Can I quit," after the fist week.  So I am so torn and do not know what to do.  He is my one child that is on the heavier side, and needs all the physical activity he can get.  Ultimately he could still run for our community school, but the conflict is that practice is form 3-4pm, and the Charter School does not get out til 4:30pm.  The meets even start at 4, a half hour before Charter School ends their day.  Do I tell my son, he doesn't have a choice he is going to Charter School, or do I let him stay at the Community School so he can continue track, while my other 3 children go to the Charter Academy.  If it wasn't the Health benefit (which he really needs) of sports, I wouldn't be so torn.  Advice Please.

by on Apr. 26, 2013 at 8:27 AM
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DropZoneMom
by on Apr. 26, 2013 at 12:35 PM
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Sit down & talk to him about the options, and allow him to decide (with the realization he can always change his mind later).   At his age, I don't think YOU should make the decision for him.

MamaSnaps
by on Apr. 26, 2013 at 12:37 PM

Our HS has the advanced option here now. 

Usually charters are a part of the actual public school system-same board and upper administration. Whereas something that is ordered down from the board will meet with no flack from the AD at the public high school. 

I guess you are at the point where you have to weigh out and guess if your child will be one to take advantage of the advanced classes and if it will be of serious benefit to him. 

I know that with my older kids I made a HUGE mistake that I have changed in my life now with the ones who are still at home. I pushed sports but, when they didn't participate it wasn't a big deal-it's not their thing and I totally support that. HOWEVER... I should have gotten the entire family involved in a more active and healthy lifestyle. It's a live and learn thing but, man do I wish I'd done that long ago. Only since my 15 year old has become a serious wrestler in the past 5 or so years have I REALLY learned what I should have been doing all along. I did my older boys no favors. Perhaps getting the entire family into the gym or into a routine of walking or exercising would be an option. I know I have benefitted in soooooo many ways from it personally. 

Quoting hancex6:

You get my point exactly....he is not the one with the IEP, his grades are A & B's, however the curriculum is way less demanding than at our old school or the Charter, but still his Grades are not an issue at all.  I don't necessarily like Charter Hours either, but for my Child that has Memory Deficit it is actually a blessing, because he doesn't have the learning loss over long summer!  They don't start any later than regular school, they just have longer days (extra 1.5 hours).  But the day is broken up and less pressed, they have a specific class at end of day for kids to do any homework and to get 1 on 1 help with any homework, creating less to do at home, so parents don't get frustrated when they have 4 kids all needing help with homework as soon as they walk in the door, lol.

Yes, the Charter School is in the same School District as the Public School, so kids that live in the town of Charter School, if they do not attend the Charter School, then they come her to where my kids are now.  My 14 year old also, wants to really get a summer job, which he will not be able to do if attending Charter School, but that is least of my concern, we are willing to pay for all his needs. 

There is some animosity between the Charter and Public school, more so the Public School bad mouthing Charter for stealing their students.  That was a topic that was brought up at the Charter School and the Superintendents response was, "I will tell my parents, what I tell my staff, I don't even want to here the topic, it is time wasted that we could be spending on the childrens education, which is my top priority." Talk about impressive!  So I think our Public School will tell me to get lost, but I will be asking the Athletic Director if there are any possibilities (I am waiting til I know for sure the kids are accepted at Charter)

A bonus at the Charter School is they have a Co-operative High School learning.  Which means for those advanced students, they have the possibility of Graduated with a High School diploma and a College Associates degree.  Wiping out 2 years of College in high school, for no cost!  


Quoting MamaSnaps:

As much as I am an advocate of sports for children I'd have to choose education in this situation. There is NOTHING that should take precedence over a good education.
Now, having said that is the 14 year old making good grades and learning all that he needsd to learn? Are HIS test scores in the acceptable to excellent range? If they are and I felt his needs were being met by the current school I would then consider leaving him there. That is assuming that is not the child with the IEP.

I seriously don't like the hours of the charter school. THat precludes those kids from a LOT of outside after school activities. Especially when they don't already offer them. I do understand that there is a big movement to get the day started a bit later in school. However, at this point it's just not feasible. 

Question-is the charter a part of the city public school system? Because if it is then some type of arrangements should be made for those kids to be able to participate in the activities offered by the public school system. 




supercarp
by on Apr. 26, 2013 at 2:52 PM

Maybe the school is not 1 size fits all. When the oldest goes to high school they won't be at the same school either. I have never had all my kids in one school, btw.

Roo1234
by Member on Apr. 26, 2013 at 4:15 PM
Does your community have a kids track club? That is one option. My son (currently 10) started running two years ago on his own. He has completed 26 5k races. Yes, it means we have to remember to find them, sign him up, and get him there in the early mornings, but it has been great for his motivation, confidence and general well-being.
sahlady
by Gold Member on Apr. 26, 2013 at 8:16 PM

talk to the charter school about allowing him to opt out of pe, thus leaving early to do track.

we have an ISPE option at our middle and high schools (Independent Study PE) there are very rigorous standards but many children participate, and all get out early to go to their practices.

boys2men2soon
by Kimberly on Apr. 26, 2013 at 10:23 PM

That is a tough call.    I honestly don't have any advice.  Sorry.




Lorik1969
by on Apr. 26, 2013 at 10:33 PM
Can you afford a gym menbership? My youngest is pretty chunky even though he is active. I need to lose a few pounds also, so we go to the gym together. I really feel that education is more important. But I also understand your concern about getting him some exercise.
mamavalor
by Member on Apr. 26, 2013 at 11:26 PM

If he likes where he is, let him stay.  There are many families where the kids attend different schools.  You need to place him where he will best thrive and grow.

fullxbusymom
by Bronze Member on Apr. 26, 2013 at 11:46 PM

I at this point would allow him to make the decision for himself.  He is old enough to be able to have his concerns or desires taken into consideration.

suesues
by Silver Member on Apr. 27, 2013 at 7:55 AM

school of course he can workout on his own and get ready for hs track team Our church has a track team call around community for 1

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