So I've been married to my dh for going on 19yrs. It has had its ups and downs for sure. I don't think neither of us has been happy in our marriage for awhile now, but we do love each other and we have a child together. My husband has anger issues, plus he suffers from depression he won't admit to. Because of his depression, he seeks to try to make himself feel better by belittling me, criticizing everything I do and basically just controlling me. I just graduated college earlier this month and just have to pass my 3 boards in order to be a registered respiratory therapist. I pretty much knew in my heart that I wanted to find a job, then leave my dh...but there is a part of me that was hoping that maybe we could work things out. Well now it looks like he is cheating on me, and I don't know what to do. He has been coming home late EVERY night for the last 2 weeks, saying he has to "work late" or that he "stopped for a couple of beers". We were at dinner a couple of nights ago, and was smiling as he was reading and responding to a text. When I checked his phone later that night, he had deleted those texts, because the last text on his phone was from me from earlier in the evening. He told me he was pretty much working this whole weekend, and he was texting someone again last night, and when I checked his phone this morning, he has installed a swipe password code on his phone. We have had cell phones for almost 15 yrs, and he has never locked his phone before. My question is: What do I do about this? Should I confront him? Should I just go about my business and leave once I get a job, like I planned? I honestly don't want him touching me if he's sleeping with someone else, so I'm not sure how to deal with that either. I just feel so hurt, confused, angry and tired.
on Apr. 27, 2013 at 8:27 AM