My 14 yo daughter has a friend who I do not want her hanging out with as much. It has been relatively easy during the school year as they do not have classes together. I think the summer may be a problem. This other girl doesn't seem to have consistent rules (divorced parents) and does not seem to be held accountable for actions. She is very mouthy and I can tell when my daughter has been hanging around her. She also tells my daughter that we are bad parents because we won't let her dye her hair (last time I saw this friend her hair was orange), won't let her wear all-black every day, won't let her wear a hat most of the time, won't let her have a friend over un-supervised, won't let her sleep over during the week, make her go to church (her Mom is now married to an Indian and is considering converting to Hinduism). The list goes on. This girl is very "dark" and this year does not seem to have any outside interests, she no longer plays sports and has dropped out of band. She is also dating a high school boy (they are in 8th grade). I know that she has already lied to her parents about where she was and has been kicked out of a store for shoplifting.
We had a talk about different families having different rules, but I don't know if that really sunk in. I know they were fighting for a while (not sure why) and I could see the difference in my daughter's personality. I know I can't choose my daughter's friends, but need some advice on how to minimize their interaction without telling her they can't hang out together at all.