My son is only 13 and in 7th grade. This is his first year in junior high, and it's been a huge change from the elementary setting--in addition to dealing with the teen hormone changes. He takes a foreign language grammar class, and the class is core to him receiving busing to the junior high he's going to. (Neighborhood school is horrible, so we don't want him going there. We are unable to provide daily transportation. So we rely on the busing.) Neither my husband nor myself know any foreign languages. He's struggling in the class, but doing well in all his other classes. He also doesn't like the teacher for that class. I'm not thrilled with her either, but he'll have her next school year too. So I tell him it's a good life learning lesson because we're sometimes stuck dealing with people we don't get along with.
Anyhow, the teacher doesn't give me any direction on activities to improve his studying at home. All she's offered is after school help. She made the offer 3 weeks ago. He's gone once. Last week was parent-teacher conferences, so she couldn't tutor last week. While we met with her last week, he agree to meet with her after school again this week. But then he cancelled it today because he "forgot" the homework needed at home. I told him that he needs to be more responsible about keeping his backpack and homework organized, and I grounded him from electronics tonight at the very least tonight.
I'm at a loss at whether I should just let him fail or do poorly on the assignment and consider it a lesson learned, or if I should ground him further for not continuing the after school tutoring.
If he doesn't shape up, it could have negative consequences for the educational path that we started him down in kindergarten. He does like the path, but just dislikes this one teacher. I'm just at a loss at how strict I should go on this punishment.
One minute he's determined and wants to try harder in this class, and the next minute he's flippant and doesn't seem to care about it at all.
I'm still so new at having a teenager that I'm not sure how to handle these mood/attitude swings from him either. Are these attitude swings normal for a 13 year old? Or is he just covering for the frustrating he's feeling for struggling in a class for the first time?