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Teen Mom's photo banned from yearbook. What do you think??

Posted by on May. 3, 2013 at 10:04 PM
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Just like any other high school student, Caitlin Tiller of Trinity, North Carolina was excited to take her official senior portrait in the summer of 2012.

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That year, Wheatmore High School students were allowed to be photographed with a prop of their choice. Their only directions: "Bring something that represents you and helped you achieve something." For Tiller, then a 17-year-old junior, it was a no-brainer: She brought her 3-month old son, Leelin.

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"I picked my son because he's helped me be a better person," Tiller told Yahoo! Shine. "By having him, I grew up quickly but I learned how to be responsible."

Although Tiller didn't tell anyone that she was planning to bring Leelin, the photo shoot, which took place in the school cafeteria, went smoothly. "Lots of kids were there and the photographer thought Leelin was so cute. Everyone was asking to hold him," says Tiller.

An entire year went by and Tiller graduated in December, six months before her official graduation date on June 7, 2013, in order to enter Randolph Community College in January. Tiller, now 18, is currently studying to become a medical assistant.

On April 12, two days before the yearbooks went to press, Tiller received a call from the school's yearbook adviser. "She said I had to take a different photo because the one I took promoted teen pregnancy," said Tiller. "They called on my son's birthday so I said I wasn't available and besides, I choose Leelin because he represented what I've achieved in life. I said if Leelin can't be in the photo, then I won't be either. The adviser said, 'That's your choice. Then you won't be in the yearbook' and hung up on me."

Tiller's mom Karen called the principal at Wheatmore High School. "He told her that it was the yearbook adviser's decision, not his," says Tiller. So Karen called the school board. "They just told her no but didn't explain why," said Tiller. "Then my mom got mad and called the news station." On Wednesday, Tiller went public with her story on a local TV station.  

In an email to Yahoo! Shine, Donald E. Andrews, the Superintendent of Randolph County Schools wrote: "The practice at Wheatmore High School regarding yearbook pictures for seniors has been to include only graduating students in the senior section, and to permit family members and friends to be featured with our seniors in the ad section of the yearbook.  We offered this option to Ms. Tiller.  We regret that this practice was not made clearer to her earlier in the yearbook development process and we will do a better job going forward with explaining our yearbook practices.  

Tiller, who works a part-time job at a local McDonald's to support Leelin with the help of his father, doesn't deny that her pregnancy is controversial. "It was weird to go to school as the only pregnant student and walk around campus with a big stomach," she says. "I see the school's point: That if other parents see the photo, they'll call and complain. But I'm proud of my decision to have Leelin. He's the best thing that's ever happened to me and I don't want other teens going through pregnancy to feel ashamed or alone."

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atlmom2
by Susie on May. 3, 2013 at 10:06 PM

Mom called the school?  Then Mom called the news station.   If she is so grown up why didn't she fight her own battle. 

I am sorry but teen pregnancy is glorified way too much. I agree that it is inappropriate.  Sorry she was the only pregnant student.  I guess the rest either didn't have sex or used protection. 

jojo_star
by Bronze Member on May. 3, 2013 at 10:20 PM
I agree with the school. Teen motherhood, having a child while still in school, is not a good thing, it isn't something to be proud of. It should not be in a high school year book.
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Clubpenguin
by Member on May. 3, 2013 at 10:26 PM
I agree with the school. The yearbook is about her school accomplishments. Having her child is a great accomplishment but has nothing to do with school.
bizzeemom2717
by Jen on May. 3, 2013 at 11:16 PM
I agree with the pp's and the school as well on this one.
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boys2men2soon
by Kimberly on May. 3, 2013 at 11:36 PM

Although I understand the school's position, and agree that pictures of teens with their children are not appropriate for the yearbook, the school should have made that more clear.     Informing her two days before the yearbook went to press was ridiculous....I find it hard to believe that the senior pictures were not approved for print for a full year.  Since the policy was not made clear, and the advisor didn't bother to approve the pictures in advance.....  they should have allowed the picture.

I also think the fact that she did finish school...and graduated early to attend college, despite having a baby, shows responsibility on her part.




Jessiejack
by Silver Member on May. 4, 2013 at 7:51 AM
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I don't agree with the school. But before I get bashed let me explain. I think people look at it that she is proud that she got pregnant and I don't think that's it at all. I look at it that despite the challenges she went through she still graduatedfrom high school and it was her son that gave her hope and a reason to do so. She should be proud. Its never easy to raise a child no matter what your age is. The school can make changes in their polices for next year but this year it is a little late.

atlmom2
by Susie on May. 4, 2013 at 7:55 AM
It sounds like everyone knew no family, none, could be in pictures.


Quoting boys2men2soon:

Although I understand the school's position, and agree that pictures of teens with their children are not appropriate for the yearbook, the school should have made that more clear.     Informing her two days before the yearbook went to press was ridiculous....I find it hard to believe that the senior pictures were not approved for print for a full year.  Since the policy was not made clear, and the advisor didn't bother to approve the pictures in advance.....  they should have allowed the picture.

I also think the fact that she did finish school...and graduated early to attend college, despite having a baby, shows responsibility on her part.


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Crazylife1994
by Member on May. 4, 2013 at 8:05 AM

I am not saying that we need to jump up and down to celebrate teen pregnacy but it is real.

 

Nobody is even willing to look at the fact that she is graduating from high school when so many girls do not. It isn't like no one knew she had a baby.

 

People can bash teen pregnacy all day long but it is going to happen like it or not. People can bash me as well because I was a teen mom as well. Yes I was young. Yes it was hard. But I wouldn't change one thing. I have a beautiful 17 year old daughter that is finishing her freshman year at Cornell.

 

If there is more education and actual guidance then this would happen less. Still why shouldn't she have pride in the fact that yes she had a baby in high school but she still finished. I bet that if she had been asked if she could go back and have waited she would have answered yes.

 

There is only a very small percent that would ever say they wouldn't change it if they could. If more teen mom's spoke out how hard it really is less teen would get pregnant.

atlmom2
by Susie on May. 4, 2013 at 8:13 AM
She could put the pic in the ad area where most put baby pics of grads on those pages. Of course you have to pay for that area. They clearly have a rule, not just for babies but no family period. It just isn't banning babies.


Quoting Crazylife1994:

I am not saying that we need to jump up and down to celebrate teen pregnacy but it is real.


 


Nobody is even willing to look at the fact that she is graduating from high school when so many girls do not. It isn't like no one knew she had a baby.


 


People can bash teen pregnacy all day long but it is going to happen like it or not. People can bash me as well because I was a teen mom as well. Yes I was young. Yes it was hard. But I wouldn't change one thing. I have a beautiful 17 year old daughter that is finishing her freshman year at Cornell.


 


If there is more education and actual guidance then this would happen less. Still why shouldn't she have pride in the fact that yes she had a baby in high school but she still finished. I bet that if she had been asked if she could go back and have waited she would have answered yes.


 


There is only a very small percent that would ever say they wouldn't change it if they could. If more teen mom's spoke out how hard it really is less teen would get pregnant.


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luckysevenwow
by Platinum Member on May. 4, 2013 at 9:57 AM

Do they allow animals? Do they allow pet's? If yes, they her child should be allowed, without really having more info, based on the guidelines posted she should be allowed to. I don't think allowing her to put her child in the pic is glorifying teen pregnancy, I hate hearing crap like that. 

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