How old was you teen when they got their first summer job? We have suggested to our 14 yo dd that she should look into getting a job (since she wants... wants... wants) but I'm not sure after we said that it is good timing and not a good msg to send this early. How do you balance need/vs wants in how you help pay for 'extras'? Do you go 1/2 & 1/2 or make them pay the full amount for everything bought? How do you balance it out at this age? My dd now has her driving permit and she has friends that have already taken drivers ed so they can drive alone back & forth to school and work this summer. They are getting their own cars this summer at age 14. I think this is way too early & it makes it hard for parents who are trying to set limits for their kids.