It isn't really drama, I just didn't know how else to title this. This isn't a vent post, I'm not asking for advice, though if you have any, please share! This is more of a, I just need to get it out kind of thing, and this isn't something I feel comfortable really sharing with anyone irl yet.
So, background. My kids are 12, 14, 15, and 16, b,b,g,b. My oldest has been in a relationship with his gf for about a year now, I love her, things are great, they are best friends, and no drama. My 15 year old has zero interest in dating or boys, she is focused solely on school and her other activities. My 14 year old was just like her, or so we thought. Then Monday he came home from school and asked if we would be ok meeting his date. DH and I said sure. It came as a surprise, we had no idea he was interested in dating, but we said sure, we'd love to meet her. Date was coming over to dinner tonight. I cooked, everything was nice, we were all home and prepared to meet his date. I don't know what I was expected, maybe a quiet, mousy, intellectual girl. Maybe a sporty jock type girl. So as you can guess, Brian was a huge surprise. I wasn't sure how to react, and for the first few seconds, I couldn't. I did not expect this AT ALL. I've spent the hours since finding out trying to figure out how I, with the gay best friend, could have missed the signs.
I love my son. His being gay isn't an issue. I'd love him no matter who he loved. But my heart breaks for him. All I kept thinking of during dinner were the many, many nights my gay best friend came to my house in tears, because the kids at school had bullied him yet again, or because he'd been called yet another vicious name. I'm glad that DS felt safe coming to DH and I, and telling us, and I love, I absolutely love, his boyfriend. He's two years older than DS, but seems like an awesome guy, he was very, very polite and well mannered, he seemed smart, he was respectful, and he truly seems to like our son. He is coming over again this weekend, after DH and I have had some time to get over the initial shock of this, so we can get to know him better.
Ok, I feel a little better now, getting this out there. Thanks for reading and listening to me ladies!