My dd just turned 13, she is a great child, doesn't talk back, doesn't have all these defiant moods... Since school started everything else went to crap. She hates school, she went from all A's and B's last year to all D's and F's this year. I've tried talking to her, trying to explain why school is so important, I've tried listening to her, I really do want to understand, but all she ever says is 'I don't know... cuz I'm stupid... (tho I've told her a million times she's NOT stupid, she's very smart) and more crying and and saying she doesn't know. And now, found food in her coat pockets, they were STUFFED with food!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! No wonder she's always complaining she's hungry! I don't know what to do anymore. Dh wants me to grab garbage bags and just start throwing stuff in her pig sty of a room. Should be fun, since I broke my knee recently and its still immobilized... Please help me, even if it's just words of encouragement... Thank you in advance.