Sometimes I wonder where I went wrong with my teenage son.
He can be rude and disrespectful. please don't tell me I allow this to happen. I have tried to not allow it to happen. He's failing in school. I've found these huge bottles of vodka in his room, all empty btw. I am now realizing he's been sneaking out of the house for a long time. At least I suspect he has. We have a move coming up, theres lots I need his help with. he's sixteen so he can very well pitch in and help. I have an 8 month old baby, an 8 year old girl and my dh is away. Trying to get ds to help is like pulling teeth. he certainly don't seem to be turning out to be that polite kind man I wished he would become. Its sad really. That sweet little boy he used to be (you know the one who loved his mother and his mother loved him back and I still very much do, the mother who spent boo koo time with him playing with him, teaching him, helping him for hours on end with homework that he just never seemed to complete ...hindsight here, he's always had problems with getting his work done) I just lost it with him today. tried so hard not to but I blew it. It all started with me asking him where he was going to be tomorrow. (We're moving and he said he wanted thursday free so he could spend time with his girlfriend. I was fine with that. problem is that sense he's been getting in trouble lately I wanted to know where he was going to be. I haven't even met this girlfriend of his. Today he changes his story. Claims he never said that he was going to visit his girlfriend but he did want thursday free. So I asked where are you going to be. I just need to know where you are. Thats all. His response was to sit there in silence in front of the computer continuing to watch his utube video. I wanted to bop him a good one right then and there but seeing as how teens are crazy brained and do stupid things I decided to just say get off the computer. you sitting there straight up ignoring someone when they are trying to ask you a question is rude. he does this a lot. You ask a question. he just sits silently and don't say a word. long story short he continued to not listen to me so I just blew up on him. Of course this only served to make him think he is now justified in being angry at me. ugggg......teeens. He even said fuck you and thats the first time he has ever said that crap to my face. I was livid. Seeing as how I was about to reach out and touch his ass....i decided I better go cool down. i'm sitting here thinking what the heck did this child miss from us parents. what did we leave out when raising him? I honestly feel so dissappointed in who he is becoming. I get the feeling he's going to be one of those lazy self centered types. maybe not. i suppose i do see a glimmer of hope that this is just a crazy self centered teenage phase and he will grow out of it. I see other kids his age offering to help when my own son won't. I know they say don't always blame yourself but I can't help but to wonder. Its not that I haven't tried. If I did mess up it was due to not knowing any better more than anything. I want my little boy back. It breaks my heart.