told our 15 year old son's probation officer and substance worker that my husband has been using pot for a great deal of time, and that I will not put all the blame on our 15 year old son. Our son had gotten caught with pot in school and he uses pretty regularly, has punched holes in walls at home, stolen money and pot from us, lied, etc. My husband is verbally abusive to our kids and sometimes me. I hold both my husband and our son responsible for both of their behaviors. They are both in the wrong, as they both do pot. Oh yeah, I let my social worker know what is going on too. Cannot keep the weight of this on my shoulders anymore, tired of hiding the truth, hoping they finally get the help they need through counseling and substance treatment. This is basically the last straw.