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My niece asked me about birth control today. She said she's not sexually active at the moment, but she wants to be on it just in case. She started telling me that she wants Implanon, and I told her absolutely not she cannot use bc that involves implanting a foreign object into her arm. I've seen so many girls where there's have broken off and some who couldn't get the whole thing removed. She really doesn't want to take another pill, and went on to ask about the shot. I'm just... This is a lot to take on so fast. Am I even allowed to get her bc?!
by on Jun. 22, 2013 at 11:36 PM
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PurpleHazey
by on Jun. 24, 2013 at 11:21 AM



Quoting LoveonHollySt:

If her mom is around this should be left up to her to decide.  My dd is only 3 right now so it is a little hard to think about but I wouldn't want her on anything until she is at least sixteen.


I am with you on this, I think it is the same thing as sneaking and I don't like it when someone sticks their nose in something that is not their business. I don't like it when someone has a hard time minding their own.

Janeite
by on Jun. 24, 2013 at 12:33 PM

She could go to Planned Parenthood and get the birth control herself. I'm no expert on bc. I know that my stepson and his gf went to his gf's mother and got it from her.  

moobahlalala
by on Jun. 24, 2013 at 12:56 PM
She's living with me now. She's actually asked her mom before coming up here, and she said she would but never took her. Her mom's not exactly mother of the year. Don't get me wrong, I love my sil but she's so caught up in drinking now that she just doesn't do much anymore but stay home now.


Quoting PurpleHazey:

Why is she asking you? why isn't she talking with her mom about using it? I would be very angry if my daughter spoke to someone else before she spoke with me.


moobahlalala
by on Jun. 24, 2013 at 1:03 PM
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Harsh much? I asked for advice not a lashing. It is far from sneaking around. Her mom could care less what her girls are doing. She lets them leave the house whenever they please, stay days at their boyfriends' homes, smoke weed and cigarettes, and that's just to name a few. The oldest is in my care now, and I'm doing the best I can for her sake. I don't appreciate your comments. If you have nothing nice to say, then please move along.


Quoting PurpleHazey:




Quoting LoveonHollySt:

If her mom is around this should be left up to her to decide.  My dd is only 3 right now so it is a little hard to think about but I wouldn't want her on anything until she is at least sixteen.



I am with you on this, I think it is the same thing as sneaking and I don't like it when someone sticks their nose in something that is not their business. I don't like it when someone has a hard time minding their own.


moobahlalala
by on Jun. 24, 2013 at 1:04 PM
And this is officially my business. She is mine and my husband's responsibility. I am certainly minding my own.


Quoting moobahlalala:

Harsh much? I asked for advice not a lashing. It is far from sneaking around. Her mom could care less what her girls are doing. She lets them leave the house whenever they please, stay days at their boyfriends' homes, smoke weed and cigarettes, and that's just to name a few. The oldest is in my care now, and I'm doing the best I can for her sake. I don't appreciate your comments. If you have nothing nice to say, then please move along.




Quoting PurpleHazey:





Quoting LoveonHollySt:

If her mom is around this should be left up to her to decide.  My dd is only 3 right now so it is a little hard to think about but I wouldn't want her on anything until she is at least sixteen.




I am with you on this, I think it is the same thing as sneaking and I don't like it when someone sticks their nose in something that is not their business. I don't like it when someone has a hard time minding their own.



moobahlalala
by on Jun. 24, 2013 at 1:08 PM
Her mom lives about an hour away. My niece is living with us, but it's still pretty new. Do you think it would be worth the drive to left her see her mom and let them talk about it?


Quoting LoveonHollySt:

If her mom is around this should be left up to her to decide.  My dd is only 3 right now so it is a little hard to think about but I wouldn't want her on anything until she is at least sixteen.


Linagma03
by Member on Jun. 24, 2013 at 1:18 PM

I guess one question I have is do you have legal custody or guardianship? I believe if you do then you have the right to consent to this. As was said tho I believe Planned Parenthood would be the best place to go. If she would allow it I would also like to be involved because while listening to what the options are it might create questions that you hadn't anticipated for her to ask. 

moobahlalala
by on Jun. 24, 2013 at 1:25 PM
Legally, no. It's hard to explain. She just moved in last Thursday. Things are pretty bad at her mom's house. I'm guessing in her mom's eyes it would be best if she stayed here where there isn't constant fighting.


Quoting Linagma03:

I guess one question I have is do you have legal custody or guardianship? I believe if you do then you have the right to consent to this. As was said tho I believe Planned Parenthood would be the best place to go. If she would allow it I would also like to be involved because while listening to what the options are it might create questions that you hadn't anticipated for her to ask. 


Linagma03
by Member on Jun. 24, 2013 at 2:09 PM
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I don't have legal custody of my 3 grandkids but I did get their mother, my sd, to give me medical & educational power of attorney that way I could take care of things. She is really hard to reach and lots of times would ignore my calls. She wouldn't show up for meetings at the school. One of the kids is special needs with a life threatening condition and other issues and her mother can't be bothered to get her to the specialists appts. It is best that they are here with us but at the same time we needed at least the medical power of attorney. With out that if there was an emergency I couldn't get medical attention for the kids unless it was life threatening and then by law I wouldn't be able to get any information about their condition nor would the hospital release them to me to bring them back home. 

Quoting moobahlalala:

Legally, no. It's hard to explain. She just moved in last Thursday. Things are pretty bad at her mom's house. I'm guessing in her mom's eyes it would be best if she stayed here where there isn't constant fighting.


Quoting Linagma03:

I guess one question I have is do you have legal custody or guardianship? I believe if you do then you have the right to consent to this. As was said tho I believe Planned Parenthood would be the best place to go. If she would allow it I would also like to be involved because while listening to what the options are it might create questions that you hadn't anticipated for her to ask. 



LoveonHollySt
by on Jun. 24, 2013 at 3:25 PM

I would.  I think she may respect you for it.

Quoting moobahlalala:

Her mom lives about an hour away. My niece is living with us, but it's still pretty new. Do you think it would be worth the drive to left her see her mom and let them talk about it?


Quoting LoveonHollySt:

If her mom is around this should be left up to her to decide.  My dd is only 3 right now so it is a little hard to think about but I wouldn't want her on anything until she is at least sixteen.



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