Back story: dd has always been popular- a girly girl but active in sports. Middle of last school year she started having some medical problems and had to drop off one of the teams she was crazy active in. The coach didn't show much sympathy but that was okay. I expected them to be more supportive, at least ask how she was but no one ever did. I think it bothered me more than her.
In the midst of all of this- testing, CT Scans, ultrasounds, etc. she started having trouble with her wrist. She cheers and her passion is tumbling. Well she ends up on restriction- no tumbling for a year.
While all of this is happening, her cheer coach begins some "off" things; having the girls laying face first on the floor when the opposing team comes out, and started acting a little like Abby Lee. Well, some of it I roll with and some of it- like laying on the ground face first I put my foot down and say no. Dd doesn't object at all,
Some of her friends start rebeling, (sex and alcahol) and dd withdrawals. (Uncle died from OD, they were very close- she is adamant about No to drugs and drinking). She decides not to try out for cheer due to coaches behavior (I was very proud of her). The problem is now she never does anything.
Am I over reacting? How much time do most 14 year olds spend at home? Is it normal she is only with friends a couple days a week?
I am so happy she is making good choices, but I thought she would have made new friends by now. The few she did, were only using her to get invited to parties, etc. It was very hurtful for her and now I wonder if she has put up a wall.