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So not ready for this....ack

Posted by on Jul. 2, 2013 at 3:02 AM
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 I was just on FB and my 15 yr old son has "In a Relationship" with _______. I am so not ready for this.  The girl lives 8 states away, he met her through one of his games he plays. Their convo's are harmless, so that is nice, but I am so not ready for boyfriend/girlfriend stuff....

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GleekingOut
by Silver Member on Jul. 2, 2013 at 6:04 AM

does he know this girl in real life? if not - I would put a squash to that relationship. My kids are not allowed to talk to anyone they do not know in real life until they are 18. Who knows - this "girl" could be  a 40yo creepy man.

Crafty8852
by Member on Jul. 2, 2013 at 7:25 AM

GleekingOut has a good point. My son is 13 and plays Xbox live where he can play and talk with other people from all over. I get nervous, I remind him not to give out our information or location. I made him watch some NBC Dateline shows where people turned out to NOT be who they said they were. A little shocking to him at first, but I think he gets it. On the other hand, he has a "new girlfriend" from school and when I asked why his "old" one broke up with him, he just said "I don't know". I suggested he call this one on the phone once in a while, maybe even take her to a movie or the arcade. He rolled his eyes and walked away lol. He's not ready for a "relationship" lol.

atlmom2
by Susie on Jul. 2, 2013 at 8:25 AM
If he hasn't skyped then he may be talking to an adult.
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HopesNDreams
by Member on Jul. 2, 2013 at 8:29 AM
Previous posters give excellent advice. I would add that you need to have a cyber sex conversation, particularly regarding sending pictures. Remember that any pictures he send of a sexual nature are on YOUR devices and YOUR internet connection. Beyond the basic issues with it, you could be charged with child pornography.

If he was in a relationship with a girl at school, you would meet her and her parents - have you 'met' thiscyber girlfriend or her parents?
pinkysmommy720
by Member on Jul. 2, 2013 at 11:40 AM

 No, it isn't a 40 yr old creepy man..lol...I have seen her on Skype.

Quoting GleekingOut:

does he know this girl in real life? if not - I would put a squash to that relationship. My kids are not allowed to talk to anyone they do not know in real life until they are 18. Who knows - this "girl" could be  a 40yo creepy man.

 

pinkysmommy720
by Member on Jul. 2, 2013 at 11:46 AM

 We have had all the sex conversations about pictures, texts, etc. and have seen their conversations. They don't talk on Skype because the computer is in the livingroom and his brother is the xbox, so the just type. He doesn't have a cell phone either, so hasn't texted her. I have seen her and waved when they are talking on Skype.

Quoting HopesNDreams:

Previous posters give excellent advice. I would add that you need to have a cyber sex conversation, particularly regarding sending pictures. Remember that any pictures he send of a sexual nature are on YOUR devices and YOUR internet connection. Beyond the basic issues with it, you could be charged with child pornography.

If he was in a relationship with a girl at school, you would meet her and her parents - have you 'met' thiscyber girlfriend or her parents?

 

drfink
by Emily on Jul. 2, 2013 at 1:15 PM
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I agree with the PP's advice but if you have taken all precautions hang in there.Last year my 16 y.o had such a crush on a girl ,he comes down for breakfast and tells us he is I.A.R. ( I think those were the letters ) I was confused...turns out at their high school girl friend ,boy friend is "old school" they use the initials for in a relationship ...LOL...

jojo_star
by Bronze Member on Jul. 2, 2013 at 2:25 PM

I agree with GleekingOut in this case, if he doesn't know her irl, and met her online, I wouldn't be happy with it. As far as dating in general goes, two of my boys are dating, my 17 year old has had a gf for a little over a year now, and my 14 year old has had a boyfriend for about two months. Just talk about safe sex, cyber sex, sexual pictures, things like that. 

bizzeemom2717
by Jen on Jul. 2, 2013 at 5:09 PM
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 Lol at least she is 8 states away :)

boys2men2soon
by Kimberly on Jul. 2, 2013 at 6:02 PM

Joy!   I went throught this with my son at the same age.    Gotta love xbox live.   My son & his little Texas Tornado (my nickname for her) were trying to talk me & her Mom into letting them visit one another.  I said No way to my son going 2000 miles away.   Her Mom was actually going to let her daughter come out here!!! She was 15 years old!!     I talked to the Mom several times on the phone.   I goggled the entire family.   I saw the girl on skype a few times w. my son.        It finally ended when my son and his current g/f got together.   My son decided he would rather have a real life g/f, lol.  




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