Just want to know if any of your kids are over 18 and still living at home what rules do you have for them?
Not so many. If they are going out, I want a reasonable explanation of when they will be home (not a curfew, but telling me when they expect to be home). Keep their room reasonable. No dirty clothes or shoes on the floor throughout the house. No dishes left in the bedroom.
Our dd is 19.
Our rules are you work full time, go to school or a mix pt school pt job. She chose to work. We don't have a curfew for her but she tells us that she is going out and when she's planning to be home, I think that is just a habit from when she was in high school. She pays for her entertainment, food out of house, clothing, etc. She pays $25/week in rent. We keep the money, unbeknownst to her, when she is ready to move out we will use the money to offset moving costs~ it can go towards rent deposit, utility hook up, household items, etc. In the house she takes care of her pets (rabbits and a turtle), her room and laundry. She cleans up after herself if she's hanging out in other areas of the house.
I'm heading down that road soon, too. My plan is to have my son help plan the rules so he has "buy-in" from the start. Then I'll type them up and have him sign them. That will avoid the whole, "I never knew about that rule" excuse! Since we have a younger son at home as well, I will say no overnight guests without previous permission, and no one at the house past 10:00pm on week nights. Any sign of drugs and it's instant rehab. Raising teens to adulthood is so tough!
my duaghter turned 18 this past march.... rules didnt change just because her age did. she is still living off our dime so the rules are the same as they always have been. If she wants to make the rules then she needs to get a job, move out, and claim her adulthood. but as long as she is living off us she is not an adult and must have the same rules as always.
House rules apply to all
Dd is 19 and away at school most the year. But, when she is home, she has a curfew of 12:30 It can be negociated, depends on who, what and where. She still has to be helping with household chores and the like.
Quoting my2kidsmom9498:Dd is 19 and away at school most the year. But, when she is home, she has a curfew of 12:30 It can be negociated, depends on who, what and where. She still has to be helping with household chores and the like.
this is the rule we supposedly have with our 19 yo son but he thinks that 1230 is too early and last night decided not to come home till 2am even though he has to be at work at 830. He knows that I don't sleep till he comes home but obviously that doesn't matter, only what the gf says matters, and she tells him to stay. Real considerate of him,(she doesn't work-so can sleep in). So now I am trying to figure out what the consequences should be for that. I have told him that if he had plans other than sitting at her house for hours that it was okay to come home later and on nights he doesn't have to get up the next day for work. I just wish the son who used to be respectful would return, any ides when that may happen? LOL
Mine are all under 18.
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