So we had told our 19 yo son that we would like him to be home by 1230am on nights that he needs to go to work the next day and also because I am a worrier and don't sleep till he is in. I told him that on the weekends he can stay out later if he wants. He and the gf don't like this rule so the other night he was there until 2am, no text saying he was staying until I texted him at 1am to see if he was okay, a yes response and nothing else till he came home. Yesterday my husband confronted him about it and he said "what if I don't feel like coming home then". My husband told him this is the rule and you need to follow it in our home. Yesterday he went to work, came home while I was at the store and texted me to see if I was coming home to make dinner. My husband was out of the house for work last night so when I came home I told him "you know that rule that says mom makes dinner, I decided I'm not going to follow it anymore so you are on your own!" With that I preceeded to make myself something and ate. He made himself a sandwich about an hour later. He has not said anything to me since. BRRRR, it is definitely cold in my house for the 4th of July. I feel like he owes me an apology for not respecting our rules, what are your thoughts? I've also decided the rule that mom does the laundry for him is not a good one either, so not following that either! Do I continue until he says something or do I need to cave in once again and start the conversation, I hate living this way but I also hate that he wants the upper hand.
By the way, Happy fourth of July!