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Teen Moms Should Be Forced to Live at Home With Their Parents

Posted by on Jul. 15, 2013 at 12:14 PM
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Teen Moms Should Be Forced to Live at Home With Their Parents

by Jeanne Sager

Teen Mom 2 Chelsea Houska's daughter AubreeTeen Mom 2's Chelsea Houska's parents supported her even after she got pregnantWhen politicians are stuck trying to legislate good parenting, it always makes me heartsick. A proposal to force teen moms to live with their parents is no different.

Shouldn't that be a given? If your kid gets pregnant, they don't stop being your kid!

The proposal comes out of Britain, where a group of MPs (Members of Parliament) are concerned that public funds given to teen moms are actually encouraging teen pregnancy. Essentially they say teens get pregnant because they want to move out, and those monies enable them to do it.

It's a fair point.

But what kind of parent lets their pregnant teenager move out of the house? What kind of parent doesn't want their kid to be home at one of the most difficult times of their lives?

I don't want to think of my daughter ever ending up pregnant as a teenager. It's why I believe in talking about birth control with your kids (as well as encouraging they wait a good long time to have sex ... yes, abstinence SHOULD still be encouraged, but we have to be realistic).

But let's say it happens.

It could. Unfortunately.

There is no set "type" of girl who ends up pregnant as a teenager. The girl who had a bun in the oven in the class behind me was from a so-called "good" family. She was highly intelligent and motivated. Still, she got pregnant.

The truth is, every parent of a daughter needs to consider what they would do if their child got pregnant. Would you throw them out? Would you want them to stay home so you could help them with the baby?

Consider this: Right here in America, 67 percent of teen mothers who moved out of their own families’ household live below the poverty level. At least 63 percent of teen mothers receive some type of public benefits within the first year after their children were born, and less than one quarter receive any sort of child support from their child's father.

Teen moms who move out don't tend to do well.

Teen moms who have supportive parents, on the other hand, tend to have better outcomes, as do their children. Just look at Teen Mom 2 star Chelsea Houska. Her father in particular has received criticism for coddling his daughter, but Houska is one of the few stars of the show to have a clean track record when it comes to tabloid scandals. And her daughter, little Aubree, is obviously well cared for and seems to be on track development-wise. She's well-spoken and smart as a whip. 

That's significant when you consider the statistics from the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy show "children born to mothers younger than 18 years old score significantly worse on measures of school readiness including math and reading tests."

Parenting a teen parent is depressing. It's disheartening. It can make you feel like you failed as a mom or dad.

But these things happen. The true test of a good parent is how you handle it. Do you turn your kid out or do you continue to be THEIR parent in their time of crisis?

For the good of our kids and their kids, teen parents should be living at home. No ifs, ands, or buts about it.

Do you think parents should be required to keep their kids at home when they become teen parents?

by on Jul. 15, 2013 at 12:14 PM
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atlmom2
by Susie on Jul. 15, 2013 at 12:35 PM
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I don't think they should expect to get help from the govt because they screwed up.  Anyone for that matter.  Others pay for your mistakes.  Don't agree.  I think parents need to be forced to help them and not let them get aid. 63% of teen mom's receive aid.  Travesty.  They don't think about consequences. 

That being said Chelsea has been way too coddled by her parents.  After a few years she should be on her feet and not letting Mommy and Daddy pay for a ton of crap.  Work 3 jobs people like others do. 

jojo_star
by on Jul. 15, 2013 at 3:42 PM

I don't think it should be required, but I do think it's best. I had my son at 13, and lived at home, fully supported by my parents, until I was 18. I did go to school, online until I got my GED, then I went to nursing school. My son was on track, and started school early, meeting all milestones, he's now ahead of his classmates. If my kids should be teen parents, I'd be devestated, but yes, I'd want them to remain living at home. 

stacyp6
by on Jul. 15, 2013 at 4:04 PM

Forced? that's a strong word to use...but I do believe it would be best...unless they are 18+. Where else would they go? They are still so young themselves - even though it doesn't seem so to them... Support and love and understanding...a safe place for them and their baby..

HilbillyMamaof3
by on Jul. 15, 2013 at 5:27 PM
I don't agree. I was a teen mom. My mom threw me out. It was sink or swim, I swam. I was not on PA. I moved out, got a job, promoted, got a better job, promoted again, and though not all peaches and sunshine I made it.

Momchalant
by on Jul. 16, 2013 at 4:58 PM

I don't think the parents should be required to keep their kids at home when they become teen parenting. That teenager got themselves into the situation, and needs to be thrown into the adult world, because that's what they did by having unprotected sex.

Parents shouldn't have to take care of their child and now grandchild. But of course they should always offer support, help, and advice when needed.

MJP76
by on Jul. 16, 2013 at 5:31 PM
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Ugh. Teen pregnancy. If we had more parents parenting we have less teen pregnancies.

Jennanonymous
by on Jul. 16, 2013 at 5:54 PM

I don't agree at all with that. The article even says it is based on the assumption that teen girls get pregnant on purpose. How ridiculous. I have only known of two girls ever to get pregnant as a teen on purpose and it wasn't to get out of their parents house. Given the reasons were immature, one just wanted a baby and the other didn't want to lose her boyfriend, but forcing teen parents to stay with their parents is insaine. Especially if the parent is one who would normally kick their child out, now forced to keep them in their home, not wanting to raise their child's child, I could easily see parents forcing more abortions on their children or even getting violet with their child to cause them to miscarry. You would be surprised at what happens behind closed doors with families that look so peachy perfect on the outside!

atlmom2
by Susie on Jul. 16, 2013 at 6:04 PM
Truthfully, if you are having sex, you may get pregnant. I think every teen that is sexually active should use 2 forms of bc. Think of how many pregnances we would have then. Next to none.


Quoting Jennanonymous:

I don't agree at all with that. The article even says it is based on the assumption that teen girls get pregnant on purpose. How ridiculous. I have only known of two girls ever to get pregnant as a teen on purpose and it wasn't to get out of their parents house. Given the reasons were immature, one just wanted a baby and the other didn't want to lose her boyfriend, but forcing teen parents to stay with their parents is insaine. Especially if the parent is one who would normally kick their child out, now forced to keep them in their home, not wanting to raise their child's child, I could easily see parents forcing more abortions on their children or even getting violet with their child to cause them to miscarry. You would be surprised at what happens behind closed doors with families that look so peachy perfect on the outside!


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Jennanonymous
by on Jul. 16, 2013 at 6:14 PM


I agree with that. I was shocked when I got pregnant at 18 because I took my birth control pills religiously. I missed ONE pill and my pills quit working basically. Somehow even though I was still taking my pills and doubled up when I missed one  I conceived almost two weeks after I had missed that one pill. When I looked up the typical use statistics of birth control methods I was shocked how different they are from the perfect use statistics my gynecologist, the internet, my school system and everyone had been giving me. I have had numerous talks with my 16 year old sister about how important it is to use multiple forms of birth control especially since she lives with us now and there is no way she could finish high school and support a baby.  If they really want to cut down on teen pregnancies they need to be putting more accurate/real life statistics and birth control information/resources out there to pre-teens and teens.

Quoting atlmom2:

Truthfully, if you are having sex, you may get pregnant. I think every teen that is sexually active should use 2 forms of bc. Think of how many pregnances we would have then. Next to none.


Quoting Jennanonymous:

I don't agree at all with that. The article even says it is based on the assumption that teen girls get pregnant on purpose. How ridiculous. I have only known of two girls ever to get pregnant as a teen on purpose and it wasn't to get out of their parents house. Given the reasons were immature, one just wanted a baby and the other didn't want to lose her boyfriend, but forcing teen parents to stay with their parents is insaine. Especially if the parent is one who would normally kick their child out, now forced to keep them in their home, not wanting to raise their child's child, I could easily see parents forcing more abortions on their children or even getting violet with their child to cause them to miscarry. You would be surprised at what happens behind closed doors with families that look so peachy perfect on the outside!




atlmom2
by Susie on Jul. 16, 2013 at 6:19 PM
I used the pill for 25 years. Missed here and there. Never got pregnant.


Quoting Jennanonymous:


I agree with that. I was shocked when I got pregnant at 18 because I took my birth control pills religiously. I missed ONE pill and my pills quit working basically. Somehow even though I was still taking my pills and doubled up when I missed one  I conceived almost two weeks after I had missed that one pill. When I looked up the typical use statistics of birth control methods I was shocked how different they are from the perfect use statistics my gynecologist, the internet, my school system and everyone had been giving me. I have had numerous talks with my 16 year old sister about how important it is to use multiple forms of birth control especially since she lives with us now and there is no way she could finish high school and support a baby.  If they really want to cut down on teen pregnancies they need to be putting more accurate/real life statistics and birth control information/resources out there to pre-teens and teens.


Quoting atlmom2:

Truthfully, if you are having sex, you may get pregnant. I think every teen that is sexually active should use 2 forms of bc. Think of how many pregnances we would have then. Next to none.





Quoting Jennanonymous:

I don't agree at all with that. The article even says it is based on the assumption that teen girls get pregnant on purpose. How ridiculous. I have only known of two girls ever to get pregnant as a teen on purpose and it wasn't to get out of their parents house. Given the reasons were immature, one just wanted a baby and the other didn't want to lose her boyfriend, but forcing teen parents to stay with their parents is insaine. Especially if the parent is one who would normally kick their child out, now forced to keep them in their home, not wanting to raise their child's child, I could easily see parents forcing more abortions on their children or even getting violet with their child to cause them to miscarry. You would be surprised at what happens behind closed doors with families that look so peachy perfect on the outside!







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