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16 yr old daughter is begging to keep contact with an on and off again 1st time boyfriend

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This mayb long to explain it all. Its been just me and my daughter for most of her life, I've got a live in boyfriend of a year and half now, he is very strict and doesn't understand teenagers at all. My daughter is a good girl, doesn't party or go out much. She met a boy last year and started getting close via social media and phone. Not much physical contact. The boy did not keep his promises so she decided not to "date" him but always had a thing for him. Well, he came back around a few months afterwards saying he wanted another chance to prove he could b a good boyfriend. She had never had a serious boyfriend and at 16 I allowed it. He lived 2 hours away with his grandparents but his mom lived n our town so on weekends he would drive up to spend weekend w mom and spend time w my daughter. She fell head over heels n love and eventually lost her virginity to him. She has always been honest with me and told me this. Well during this year of them dating he slowly started coming up with excuses why he couldn't make it to see her. He would make plans with her and she wuld sit and wait for him only to find out last minute he couldn't make it. This happened over and over. They began spending hours on phone argueing. She spent many times home alone crying over him. But every time believed his lies and forgave him. It finally got to the point tht I had to step in. They slowly seperated but remained "friends" didn't see each other but used social media and phone to talk all the time. Well my daughter is very emotionally immature, even for 17 bday is Aug 2 she will b 17. Has ocd andi think has created this fantasy relationship n her mind and all this time I thought she was getting over him she was building this idea tht they wuld b together one day, and he was building it filling her head with all these false ideas. Anyway, I find out the other day she wants to see him, I said no. Thts when all hell broke loose. She broke down, crying sobbing, my life is over. We r going to b together BC we love each other!! This boy sent me a text saying I can do whatever but ill never stop him from loving my daughter! I blocked his number from her phone and forbid hef frm seeing him. The boy is 20, she's barely 17, he has no job, not going to school and constantly posting things about partying. He sleeps all day and lets her down all the time. Do I stand my ground and go as far as I need to, even legally, or do I give in and let her see him and let her learn on her own? She's n my boyfriends home, who is against her dating this boy, she doesn't have license, job, or anything. She's more on level of 15 yr old and not 17. I dont want to push her to do something stupid, she's always followed my rules. I dont know what to do

by on Jul. 30, 2013 at 12:24 PM
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chattycassie
by Bronze Member on Jul. 31, 2013 at 11:54 AM

 I guess if you were worried about the "legal" aspect that should have been a concern prior to letting them date. That being said the more you push them apart the more they will grow together. It is ILLEGAL so make sure He knows that.

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