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Mom Banned From Praying Outside Kids' School Will Have to Find New Way to Embarrass Them

Posted by on Jul. 31, 2013 at 10:41 AM
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Mom Banned From Praying Outside Kids' School Will Have to Find New Way to Embarrass Them

by Jeanne Sager

praying I can think of plenty of things to do when my daughter leaves for school in the morning. Throw myself a party and actually find time to brush my teeth among them. Setting up shop on the steps of my kids' high school and loudly praying for their safety has never crossed my mind, how about you? That's what just got a mom banned from the front steps of her kids' high school in New Hampshire.

The Freedom From Religion Foundation filed a complaint against Lizarda Urena and her displays on the front steps of Concord High School. It was enough to end Urena's daily prayers at school. But I can't help but wonder: did it really take a foundation to tell her this was a bad idea?

I'm not here to bash Urena's faith. If she really thinks that prayer can keep her kids' school free of gun violence, more power to her.

But I have to wonder what kind of mom thinks it wise to stand outside her kids' high school and do ANYTHING that draws attention to her. Gun violence is scary, sure, but it's -- thankfully -- rare in our high schools. Bullying, on the other hand, is at epidemic levels (or at least reporting of it is). 

And there's nothing like being the kid with the freaky mom to put a giant target on your back.

Because Urena might see her faith as beautiful, and as an adult, as a mom, I CAN see the love behind it. But most teenagers won't see it that way. Think back to when you were a teenager. What would you have thought if you saw some random woman praying on the steps of an American high school every morning?

Now what would you have thought if she were your mom?

As much as I want to stand up and say that we all need to let our freak flags fly, the truth is, as parents, we can't. We have to hide some of it, at least when it comes to our kids. We need to respect that they have enough going on in their lives without having to defend us against a bunch of hormonal, short-sighted teenagers.

It's hard enough being a teenager, navigating the perilous halls of high school without dragging your parents' baggage with you on your back.

I understand the temptation to stand outside your kid's high school and do anything you can to keep violence at bay -- be it praying or standing as an armed guard or whatever -- but if there's one place our kids should be allowed to just be themselves, without us causing trouble, it's at school.

Do you think Urena was out of line?

Have you ever done anything to embarass your teen?

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HilbillyMamaof3
by on Jul. 31, 2013 at 11:00 AM
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I LOVE embarrassing my kids! Every morning when they get out of the car at school (we car pool) I roll down my window and yell "Don't do drugs, stay away from boys, and no sex!"

Ok... it doesn't embarrass them, they yell back its to late, we're all high on crack, and pregnant with twins. As the poor monitor teacher shakes her head, or a sub roles with laughter. Once a cop gave me a dirty look, he didn't find us humorous.

Anyway, no I would not do that. I'm not bashing her faith. But come on, that's a little weird.
atlmom2
by Susie on Jul. 31, 2013 at 11:15 AM
That mom is a nut bag. Of course every mom has done something to embarrass their kids. This mom is crazy. Pray at home lady.
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Mrs.Kubalabuku
by on Jul. 31, 2013 at 11:21 AM

I had read somewhere that her "displays" were a safety violation of what could be piled up on the stairs.  I wasn't able to find any pictures of what these displays entailed.  I'm all for freedom of speech, but this wasn't her property to put displays on.

Also, you don't need to be on-site to pray.  God can hear you.  

My son isn't a teen yet, but I think I'll be a good Mom.  LOL  When I dropped him off for his first day of summer kindergarten (a free program offered here) I saw him cringe at all the other kids whose Mom's were big weepy wrecks.  So I just rustled his hair and told him I'd see him at 3.  He turned to leave and said "Bye Mom!  See you in a few years!"  LOL  I mean, I teared up on the way home, but I managed not to embarass him on his first school day ever.

mjande4
by Bronze Member on Jul. 31, 2013 at 11:23 AM

Holy crazy lady! Any mom who repeatedly sits on the steps of her kid's school for ANY reason is loony toons!

chattycassie
by on Jul. 31, 2013 at 12:01 PM

 We had a prayer group and would meet every morning before school when I was in HS. I would not and have never been embarrassed of my faith. That being said I LOVE to embarrass my kids. I post cute things on her FB and also make sure she knows loudly when I drop her off no boys no drugs no sex. :) Her friends always laugh.

chattycassie
by on Jul. 31, 2013 at 12:03 PM

 Although I think it is odd she prays at the school, we do not keep our faith at home and pray outside our home when needed. ( Diner out ect)

Quoting atlmom2:

That mom is a nut bag. Of course every mom has done something to embarrass their kids. This mom is crazy. Pray at home lady.

 

atlmom2
by Susie on Jul. 31, 2013 at 12:18 PM
Exactly, but it can be in her car, not at the steps of the school. Who walks their kids in school after the first day maybe?? Talk about embarrassing.


Quoting chattycassie:

 Although I think it is odd she prays at the school, we do not keep our faith at home and pray outside our home when needed. ( Diner out ect)


Quoting atlmom2:

That mom is a nut bag. Of course every mom has done something to embarrass their kids. This mom is crazy. Pray at home lady.

 


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fammatthews4
by Trisha on Aug. 1, 2013 at 10:14 AM
That's a little much.
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