I've been feeling nostalgic and sad this summer....my 2 teens, a girl, age 16, and a boy, age 15, have finally hit the point where they don't want to do much with mom anymore.
I've been a stay at home mom for the past 16 years, although I have substitute taught occasionally.
My husband travels a lot on business, and my son is adhd, so it just didn't work out for me to work with all my
son's tutoring, counseling, and doctor appointments for his adhd...plus his adhd coach sessions as well.
Well, up until this summer, my son wanted to spend time with me....my daughter not so much.
Well my baby...my son...now wants to hang out with his sister....they are in marching band together, and just started band camp together this week. My son will be in his first year of high school this coming fall...so I'm glad that he is bonding with his sister. However, I miss the times that we used to spend together. He isn't
really interested in doing or going anywhere with me anymore....except an occasional movie or out to eat.
I miss spending time with my kids....and my husband will be out of town for the next 3 to 6 weeks on business! My friends are busy with their husbands, who don't travel or work the hours that my husband works. Switching jobs is not an option for him now.
I just feel like the rug has been pulled out from under me....as soon as my daughter got her driving license, things shifted with my kids....my daughter drives herself and my son everywhere they go....they prefer to be with each other rather than with mom. I'm super glad they're bonding....but I'm missing them.
They have band camp together for the next 2 weeks from 9:00 am till 4:00 pm and my husband will be out of town...I substitute teach...so I don't work over the summer.
Does anyone have any ideas on how to make adjusting to your kids growing away from you any easier?
I guess this is what happens when you are a stay at home mom for so many years....you get so wrapped up in your kids that you feel lonely and miss them when they start to grow away from you. I needed to stay home with them when they were growing up because my husband traveled on business, and my son needed someone keeping him on target constantly when he was younger...as a result... I now am at a loss as to what to do with myself since he is growing up now.
I had hoped to go back to teaching fulltime, but the market here for teaching jobs is very tight...and I have been out of the teaching field for so long...at least I can substitute teach...but that doesn't fill my summer
time days that now feel empty without going places and doing things with my kids on a daily basis....I used to love the summer....but this summer just feels so empty.
I would appreciate any suggestions or ideas...thanks for listening.