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15-Year-Old Kicked Out of Summer Camp for Kissing a Boy

Posted by on Aug. 5, 2013 at 11:45 AM
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15-Year-Old Kicked Out of Summer Camp for Kissing a Boy

by Kiri Blakeley

Remember summer camp when you were a teen? Swimming in the lake, hiking, marshmallow roasting, snatching a kiss under a star-filled sky. Only now that will get you called a "slut" and escorted off the premises by a policeman. This at least according to a lawsuit filed against a sleepaway camp. A 15-year-old teen, identified only as "Jane," kissed another 15-year-old boy, identified as "Dick," at Camp Emerson, in Massachusetts. But when word got back to the camp's owner, Jane was allegedly outed as a "loose slut" and kicked out of camp by an armed cop. And this wasn't even Bible camp!

According to the suit, when camp owner Sue Lein found out that the two teens, who had fallen in "puppy love," had shared an "innocent" kiss, she falsely accused them of "sexually provocative behavior including the removal of each other's clothing," called the teen girl a "slut," and ordered her to leave camp. Her mom had to cancel a pre-planned trip to come pick up her daughter, who was escorted away by a cop.

Hmmm. I remember camp well. I wasn't much of a kisser at that age, but certainly I knew other kids who were. It all seemed rather tame and innocent. It's the kind of things teens do. Can we really expect teens to be bombarded with hormones and provocative behavior on everything from sitcoms to music videos, and not think that they might want to kiss each other -- or even more?

Of course, I get where Sue is coming from too. Camp counselors have to deal with a slew of things that they probably didn't in the past. Like lawsuits from parents claiming their virginal daughters weren't so virginal when they got back from camp. I wouldn't put it past a parent to sue over her darling snowflake getting a kiss at camp.

As a parent, I would expect my teen would probably have a campmance. Which may include kissing. And if any camp slut-shamed her over that, I would not be happy.

But did the owner really storm into Jane's bunk and call her a "slut" over a kiss? Seems kind of far-fetched, but if so, what does she think is going on at her camp? Why does she think teens even GO to camp?

Thing to do here would be to sit down with the teens and find out what happened and if it was all consensual. Then call the parents and let them know what you heard. Then either send them home, if the parents insist, or butt out. However, suing is a tad extreme. People really love to sue, don't they?

The silver lining? Dick and Jane are now boyfriend and girlfriend and can kiss all they want. Awww!

Have you, your kid or anyone else you know ever been kicked out of camp? Why?

by on Aug. 5, 2013 at 11:45 AM
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atlmom2
by Susie on Aug. 5, 2013 at 11:54 AM
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OMG, at church camp we would see who we could kiss at the BB courts after dark. The ministers daughter too. We were not sluts. Give me a break.
Only kids kicked out were smoking.
Suing is really stupid and going to the media.
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drfink
by Emily on Aug. 5, 2013 at 12:24 PM

Mine go to single sex camps....the same ones their dad and I went attended as campers and were counselors also.There are three dances ,no where near the cabins ,but then as well as now there will be some sneak kisssing ,counselors keep their eyes open and move in and break it up.If it keeps happening the " couple " is moved to  the area , under the hawk eyes of the owners and head of camps.Sometimes kids will already be bfriend and gfriend from the same school.I never have heard of a kid kicked out for this ....smh...it is the camps responsibility to keep up with the campers.

drfink
by Emily on Aug. 5, 2013 at 12:26 PM


Quoting atlmom2:

OMG, at church camp we would see who we could kiss at the BB courts after dark. The ministers daughter too. We were not sluts. Give me a break.
Only kids kicked out were smoking.
Suing is really stupid and going to the media.

Right !!!!! ,at our church camp also.

deb51980
by on Aug. 5, 2013 at 3:14 PM
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I don't have a daughter but I would be outraged were it my daughter.  Maybe I would want to give the camp some publicity on this.

Most important would be to support the child.  I would go so far as to say that having sex with the boy would fall short of being slutty.....foolish, irresponsible to be sure but hardly a slut.....as for kissing?  That is absolutely fine in the rush of love....wasn't it delicious!

fammatthews4
by Trisha on Aug. 5, 2013 at 3:22 PM

Wow I think the owner of the camp went a little over board.  And why kick out the girl and not the boy as well?  

bizzeemom2717
by on Aug. 6, 2013 at 12:17 AM
Sad for the girl the camp owner sounds nuts
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lakerfan420
by Jamie on Aug. 6, 2013 at 2:52 AM
I was wondering the same thing. So kick her out and allegedly call her a slut, but he can stay? If true this reeks of a double standard.


Quoting fammatthews4:

Wow I think the owner of the camp went a little over board.  And why kick out the girl and not the boy as well?  


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