Hi Moms,
I have written a number of posts here and the responses have helped so much. However, I am NOT computer savvy and although I try, I can't quite figure out who these go to, or how to reply individually, etc.
I just came home feeling great from my last surgical appointment, very upbeat. When I came inside I peeked into Nathan's room to see if he was home. He has been extremely mad at my husband and I for a few days (the worst ever) and when I looked in his room, his immpecably decorated (by him) room was just an empty shell. A few boxes packed, etc.
The feeling that came over me was so powerful and unexpected that it about knocked me over. I don't know why it is so, so strong this time (5 older ones have moved out over the years - no biggie). And quite frankly, it will be a relief when he does move out because our relationship is very strained right now. He is supposed to leave for Job Corp in a few weeks, but he cannot take all the stuff he has packed there. It will still be his room for the stuff he isnt alowed to bring, and for when he comes home for holidays.
I am not writing about him at this point - I am writing to hear from others who have gone though this. Because I am not even sure why I am crying. Why would getting a shock of seeing his room which was a fiesta of his personality turned suddenly clean, empty and basically vacant, hit me like this?
It's normal, and it does get better. I once cried while making french fries, cause I realized I didn't have to make as much lol.
It would be wrenching even if moving out was a planned, positive thing.
Put aside the thought that you failed as a mother. Job Corps sounds like something positive.
Discussing the manner of moving out should come with any overture of moving back in. Bad manners there in moving out....very much burning bridges behind. Take him back in the house by all means but not without his committing to a few rules.
Quoting luckysevenwow:It's normal, and it does get better. I once cried while making french fries, cause I realized I didn't have to make as much lol.
lol. This will be me when my son moves out for the first time. =/
I am NOT looking foward to that.
Quoting luckysevenwow:It's normal, and it does get better. I once cried while making french fries, cause I realized I didn't have to make as much lol.
I am sorry you are feeling so heartbroken. Right now I can only imagine how you feel about him moving out. But as a Mama, I can feel that pain with you. They say time heals everything, I hope it works quickly for you, Hun.
I'm not there yet, all of mine are still at home but I imagine that I will be pretty upset when they start to move out.
Update about issues with 14 yr old son
- Takemyhand
on Aug. 5, 2013 at 3:05 PM