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Have You Ever Caught Your Kid Watching Porn?

Posted by on Aug. 7, 2013 at 2:06 PM
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Many Teens Are Addicted to X-Rated Websites -- Hereโ€™s What Moms Can Do About It

by Kiri Blakeley

When it comes to pornography and your kids, you're probably thinking, "Not my kids. They're still just babies. He doesn't even like girls! He gags when a girl tries to kiss him!" Well, I hate to break it to you, parents, but a lot of you are in deep, deep denial. Chances are if you have a teen boy, even one as young as 13, he has seen porn. And I'm not talking like soft woo woo kinda stuff. I'm talking hardcore pornography. And, not only that, many older kids watch porn several times a week. Not your boy? Well, somebody's boy is. Because according to a recent study, one out of eight teenagers is watching hardcore porn regularly. Like addicted regularly.

According to the study, two thirds of kids both male and female between 11 and 13 had viewed pornography online. Over half of boys age 13 and over said they watched pornography two or three times a week, sometimes more.

I'm all for teens exploring and being curious about their sexuality. But pornography isn't real sexuality. It's like sex for robots. The women always have inflated boobs and bald vajays. They have 0 percent body fat. They don't speak except to ooh and ahh and oh yeahhh. Porn isn't about intimacy. It's not about love. It's not even about learning how to please or connect with a woman.

These are formative times for your teen. How your teen views sexuality in these years will heavily influence how he views it his entire life.

Is this the way you want him to see women? Do you not want him to understand that women speak, have opinions, don't have breast implants, have hair, and that sex is complex, intimate, and not always screamingly orgasmic?

Learning about sex from porn is like learning about love from gooey romantic comedies starring Katherine Heigl. The difference is that teens will get some sense of how relationships work through real life. But with sex, porn could be the only place your kids are learning their "lessons."

So what can you do? There are all kinds of available parental filters and they should be put on all devices the kids use. Most kids first stumble upon pornography by accident but it doesn't take them long to learn where to find it.

I don't believe kids need such huge access to technology. They probably need a computer to do their homework, but they don't need an iPad or the latest mobile device or smartphone. Believe it or not, kids CAN call home on a flip phone that doesn't have Internet access.

Place your kid's computer in a family room or high-trafficked area after he's done with his homework. If he has an iPad or smartphone, tell him he can only use it when he's in a room with you. Very doubtful he's going to watch porn with you 10 feet away!

Keep histories enabled so you can check your kid's online history. Many parents feel awkward "checking up" on their kids. I'm not saying read his email. But you have a right to know where online your kid is going.

Think of all of the trouble this could keep your kid out of in terms of online bullying and Facebooking shenanigans too.

As for what your kid does at a friend's house, you can't really control, but you can at least keep his porn habit to a minimum.

Have you ever caught your kid watching porn?

by on Aug. 7, 2013 at 2:06 PM
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by Silver Member on Aug. 7, 2013 at 5:33 PM
Yep. She lied and told us she accidentally stumbled upon it while YouTube surfing. She was 15 and very very embarrassed. We allowed the lie and told her no more YouTube surfing while we were out. I suspect at 21 she now uses her phone. Her money, her business.
by on Aug. 7, 2013 at 6:50 PM
Yes, mainly one of my son's. I took electronics away and made my rules very clear.
by Bronze Member on Aug. 8, 2013 at 1:49 PM

Not sure what my SS was thinking, he DVR'd the Porn Industry awards and of course it showed up on the household DVR recording list! Totally out of character, so for first time DH was speechless!

by on Aug. 8, 2013 at 1:53 PM

 yes, and I told him that it is a natural curiosity and that what he does in the privacy of his own room or his bathroom is his business.....he is almost 17 now....and does not really look at it anymore since he has had a gf for over 2 years....

by on Aug. 8, 2013 at 2:28 PM
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Having been married to a porn addict I'm super sensitive about this. My plan is obviously to take it easy regarding porn if they're busted but I'd definitely explain the dangers of over simplifying and objectifying sex and how it can lead to some major social and sexual problems down the road. I think I've tried thwarting that bug from day one by explaining that its associated with love and not introducing them to casual sex. But my kids will never have their own computers,iPads, smart phones etc in a room alone until their 18 under my roof. And I'd much rather my kids hitting up a play girl or playboy mag than gonzo or fetish porn any day when they're teens so there are degrees in my mind. But I'm an open book to them so I'll always keep the communication open.

by Barbara on Aug. 17, 2013 at 6:03 PM

No, I have not caught my son watching porn. 

by Shauna on Aug. 18, 2013 at 5:24 PM

No I haven't

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