My son's friend who just turned 18 and will be a senior next year showed up at our house late last night. I have never met the parents and barely know the boy. Well, my son and I live in a tiny 2 bedroom apartment and he thinks he is moving in with us!!! I said no, called his father, the father said he has epilepsy. The boy had no medication with him, the father has kicked him out of the house for talking back and not having a job. He said the boy is ruining his marriage. Nice dad huh? Well, does anyone know what I should do with him? My son will blame me if the kid is out on the street. I feel bad , but I can hardly take care of us with living expenses so high in CA.
Update: Well, the boy/man is still with us. I took him to social services to apply for medical and food stamps until he has a job. Feeding him and my son means constantgrocery shopping. They told him he is a minor (what the heck!) and his father needs to sign papers, he needs to go to DMV with his birth cert. and obtain a CA ID card. to apply. Every place I called for housing he was to old or too young. The age between 18-21 is a grey area. I could drop him off at Navy recruitment if he didn't have EPILEPSY. A social worker is coming early tomorrow to see if he can interview him and help. I am feeling very stressed. I am having kind of a panic attack tonight. I said NO at first, this is becoming very hard and he doesn't seem to be doing anything to help himself. If I had known him before this for a while or his parents it would be different. But, I have a virtual stranger in my home and influencing my son. I am feeling my life is becoming out of my control for the first time since I left my abusive husband.