Okay, I'll be honest. The main reason I joined CafeMom today was because my son recently told me this, and I sought help online.
I've been watching this site for a while. It's really been fun already, and I've been liking the community.
So, let me explain a few things.
I adopted my son when I was twenty-six and he was thirteen. I've known him for seven years, and only been his adoptive mother for four, but through all that we've got a close bond that we both share. He's been through stuff that he doesn't like to talk about, but it wasn't anything abusive, sexually or otherwise.
His family just gave him up. He sees them sometimes, but not regularly. When we started out he had monthly visits, but recently he seems to be less and less interested in his biological family.
He's doing well in school, not perfect but he isn't doing bad. He seems happy and healthy enough. He doesn't have many friends, though. Only a couple that I've seen. That doesn't mean he doesn't have more than I know, of course, as I'm not constantly watching and checking up on him.
He doesn't like mainstream culture, at all, and he likes reading books and going outside more then spending time on an electronic device.
He's very quiet most of the time, but when he's around people he really knows he opens up and can talk freely and enjoy himself. He's always been pretty confident.
Anyway, back to the main subject.
About a week ago, he asked if we could talk, and he told me that he had found out he was 'Asexual', and that he wants to be celibate for the rest of his life. He said that he's been doing research and is well informed of what both mean. The thing is, I know he's old enough to know something like this for himself. But I'm still a little uncomfortable.
I don't really know what to think. The first things that come to my mind are, "Does this mean he's going to be alone?" and, "Will he have a happy life?"
I've looked it up, mind you, but I'm still feeling anxious. Very confused, and still don't quite know what to think.