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15-Year-Old Holds Dad's Beer for a Second & All Hell Breaks Loose

Posted by on Aug. 30, 2013 at 8:00 AM
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15-Year-Old Holds Dad's Beer for a Second & All Hell Breaks Loose

by Jeanne Sager

beerHow's this for a sign that the world has gone crazy? A dad asked his son to hold his beer during a preseason Arizona Cardinals game, and the act got both father and son kicked out of the stadium! Ya know, because it's letting a minor "possess" alcohol and all.

Uh. Huh.

John Coulter told USA Today he wanted to take a photograph shortly after kickoff, so he handed his brewski to his 15-year-old son. Who wouldn't? Stadium brews are priced like liquid gold. I wouldn't want to stand the chance that it would get tipped over either.

But Coulter says the innocent "hold my beer" moment landed him in trouble with undercover officers from the Arizona Department of Liquor Licenses and Control, who told the father it was illegal and kicked him out of the stadium. One official later stated the dad got lucky because he could have been charged -- and the misdemeanor could carry as much two years in jail, a $2,500 fine, and three years probation.

FOR A DAD LETTING HIS KID HOLD A BEER.

America! Can we drop this puritanical approach to alcohol? Please?

He didn't GIVE the kid a beer. He let him hold it. There is a big difference.

Parents have gone 'round and 'round for decades over whether it's OK to let younger kids taste alcohol. I'm firmly in the "it takes the taboo out of alcohol camp," but to each his own.

If you don't think kids should even have a taste, that's your prerogative.

But I think we can all agree that there's a big difference between having alcohol around kids, even letting a child hold an alcoholic beverage, and actually SERVING them alcohol.

I grew up in the country where fetching your Dad a beer from the fridge is just what kids do. We touched the beer. It did not give us cooties.

Nor did it make us more likely to drink. As my 8-year-old daughter (who, gasp, has held my beer) noted the other day when the subject of alcohol came up, I "don't drink it very much."

Call it anecdotal evidence; I am just one person of many.

But beer (and wine and liquor) is around kids all the time, sometimes even in their hands. You see kids moving their parents' beer from the grocery cart onto the conveyor belt. You see kids helping Mom carry her bag of booze out of the liquor store. You see kids shoving the bottle of wine out of the way in the fridge to get at the juice boxes.

None of this is "serving" a kid booze. But they're about as involved with it as John Coulter's 15-year-old was by "holding" Dad's beer.

Honestly, there is really no way to completely excise all evidence that alcohol exists from kids' lives. And yet there's nothing to indicate that simply being in proximity to the hard stuff destines our kids to become alcoholics -- in fact the CDC data indicates only 5 percent of Americans fall into the "heavier" drinking category. Five percent does not an epidemic make, folks.

Five percent is not a reason to freak out.

Let's remember: alcohol IS legal. It may not be legal for kids to drink it (although it is actually OK in many states for parents to serve their own children in the privacy of their own homes), but as long as it IS legal for adults to possess it, we have to acknowledge that their kids will be around it ... maybe even touch the cup.

Do you let your kids hold your beer?

Was this dad out of line?

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atlmom2
by Susie on Aug. 30, 2013 at 9:11 AM
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In Wisconsin it is not illegal.  Also you can buy your own kid alcohol legally in Wisconsin anyway.  It isn't just in the privacy of your home.  IF it is allowed at some establishments, it is legal also.  No way would this happen here in beer country, lol. 

I see both sides.  Learning to drink responsibly in your home, vs going to college and binge drinking every weekend.  Which is better? 

Txlisa7969
by Bronze Member on Aug. 30, 2013 at 9:15 AM
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This.  And to be quite honest I am getting very tired of local officials, schools and the goverment in general more and more feeling like they should be able to dictate how parents should raise their own children.



Quoting atlmom2:

In Wisconsin it is not illegal.  Also you can buy your own kid alcohol legally in Wisconsin anyway.  It isn't just in the privacy of your home.  IF it is allowed at some establishments, it is legal also.  No way would this happen here in beer country, lol. 

I see both sides.  Learning to drink responsibly in your home, vs going to college and binge drinking every weekend.  Which is better? 



luckysevenwow
by Platinum Member on Aug. 30, 2013 at 9:17 AM
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In most states it's legal for parents to buy it for their kids. I'd be damn pissed if something like this happened.

disastermind
by on Aug. 30, 2013 at 10:00 AM
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I think it's ridiculous that he got in trouble for this. It's not like the kid was drinking it, he was holding it. What a waste of time it is that they're even going after him for it. So stupid.

02nana07
by Ida on Aug. 30, 2013 at 10:13 AM

 I wouln't let my teen hold the beer or anything he shouldn't have that is just me

my2kidsmom9498
by Bronze Member on Aug. 30, 2013 at 12:35 PM
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This is nuts and another example of our government getting too big for it's britches!!

 

sahlady
by Gold Member on Aug. 31, 2013 at 11:33 AM
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my daughter is texting me about how big an issue this is.  She says that there are so many college freshman acting like high school freshman it is disgusting.  She thinks that they are nuts or that their parents must have kept them under lock and key so now they are going crazy with the freedom.

Quoting atlmom2:

I see both sides.  Learning to drink responsibly in your home, vs going to college and binge drinking every weekend.  Which is better?  


boys2men2soon
by Kimberly on Aug. 31, 2013 at 11:57 AM

My kids have fetched Dad's beers since the age of 3 or so!   They also carried the coolers at tailgates, BBQ's, camping, etc.  Being 'in possession' does not equate to consuming, for Pete's sake!  

The Dad was not out of line, the rules are.




boys2men2soon
by Kimberly on Aug. 31, 2013 at 11:59 AM


Quoting Txlisa7969:

This.  And to be quite honest I am getting very tired of local officials, schools and the goverment in general more and more feeling like they should be able to dictate how parents should raise their own children.



Quoting atlmom2:

In Wisconsin it is not illegal.  Also you can buy your own kid alcohol legally in Wisconsin anyway.  It isn't just in the privacy of your home.  IF it is allowed at some establishments, it is legal also.  No way would this happen here in beer country, lol. 

I see both sides.  Learning to drink responsibly in your home, vs going to college and binge drinking every weekend.  Which is better? 



Me too.  




boys2men2soon
by Kimberly on Aug. 31, 2013 at 12:04 PM


Quoting atlmom2:

In Wisconsin it is not illegal.  Also you can buy your own kid alcohol legally in Wisconsin anyway.  It isn't just in the privacy of your home.  IF it is allowed at some establishments, it is legal also.  No way would this happen here in beer country, lol. 

I see both sides.  Learning to drink responsibly in your home, vs going to college and binge drinking every weekend.  Which is better? 

My oldest son is 23.   He never attended Beer Bashes at college.  He does go to Sports Bars, tailgates, etc.  and he does drink alcohol..... but he never gets drunk, never drives after drinking, and is often the designated driver for his friends (and his parents on occasion)   He was raised around responsible drinking.  He was taught from the get go that if one is responsible enough to consume alcohol, then they are responsible enough to act responsibly!




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