We have new neighbours and our 14 yo girls are in sports together. They moved in in June & we are trying to work something out with carpooling with sports activities & nothing has been set in stone. We just have our girls or us moms txt/call each other to set something up. I think this is ok so we can see if it will all work out but I am a person who likes things organized so I know what will be... but I also know maybe we are just trying this to see if our families are a match for carpooling. Is this how it works for you and carpooling? Have you started out not with a basic plan (like one family takes 1 week, then the other family takes the next week & so on? So far it's worked out but it's been really one-sided becuz I'm doing more definitely (cuz I'm so... nice, such a sucker) lol. I am getting up at 5:15 each morning now for almost a week taking them to school cross country by 6 am. There was even a time a week ago when I asked the Mom if she could pick up my daughter after soccer because I had a visit planned with some friends out of town. She said yes, but then her daughter told mine in school (that day...) that she wasn't going to soccer that she had something else. The Mom didn't call me to tell me or anything, just left us hanging. My daughter called my husband & he came to pick her up. What is a good way to try to make it more even? Should I just not text/call & just see if they offer?? Now, I find out she just got a job. I will have more carpooling since I'm not working yet, looking for a job tho (oh, maybe I should have sucked it up and just worked another year in the schools) oh, but I was getting sick all the time, etc. so I decided after 5 yrs to hang it up. I think I will wait & see if they offer to carpool, we have been doing so much more & we don't know when they will volunteer. Oh.... I'm going on & on, sorry. I think I'm doomed to being this way.... ha! It's so hard to change & when I do I seem to fall back into my old patterns (giving too much, even tho I'm not working), why is it always me?! How do you handle this so you aren't taken advantage of?