I am new and joined because I am at my wits end with my strong willed 14 year old DD. I have so much to say about her I don't know where to start. I am going to try to tell you all her main issues and I would appreciate any help or advice. Basically if she doesn't want to do something there is not one reward or punishment I have used that has worked. She just will not do it. She is also outright defiant. I just asked her to give me her cell phone and she walked off with it. She kind of thinks she is an adult with full adult rights and that she can do what she wants when she wants. She also gets upset whenever you have a conversation with her she does not want to have. For example, if its a conversation about making sure she is wearing her retainers or doing her school work, she makes out like I am ruining her life and doesn't want to hear it. She doesn't eat any food I make. I have tried before with the old 'just keep putting stuff down to her and not give her a choice, but when I tried that she did not eat for 3 days straight and then had a glass of milk and vomited it all up. She doesn't sleep well and as as she has just started her freshman year she is getting very ittle sleep and struggling to get up for her bus at 6.10am. She also is not at all organized and so had no lunch today becuase she won't prepare it the night before.
It is causing major problems between me and my husband because I am like the wicked witch because I will always get to the end of my tolerance level first and me and DD will argue and he wants no part of it. As I go I can maybe add more to this, but as I sit here right now this is all I can think of. I am at my wits end and honestly have been about to move out at times because I can't cope any more. Please help! Feel free to ask me things. I appreciate any help I can get!
Nicole, 37, mother of 1.