So my daughter now has a medical condition where if she is stressed out she will get worse to the point of hospitalization. My son knows about it. She is 13, he's 17.
So since last year he failed his classes and is repeating some of them, (he still managed to pass) was caught stealing a bunch of stuff, never did his homework and lied all the time while doing nothing but drawing stupid pictures, we gave him the ground rules to the school this year.
He's to do all of his homework.
Until he has proven to us he will do the work he is not to draw on any of his binders, folders, papers, etc. If his friends try to draw something and give it to him, do not accept it until we give him the ok because we want him paying attention to school not drawing and we don't know it wasn't his.
He is not to destroy his stuff. We paid alot of money for this crap, I don't want it damaged on purpose.
He is not to bring home ANYTHING that wasn't provided by us.
So what does he do? He destroys the binders we gave him by CARVING drawings in them with his pen, destroys a folder his TEACHER gave him, and then did nothing but upset my daughter with his nonsense!
By the way, if she doesn't start feeling better, I'm going to have to make a trip to the ER tonight.
What do I do? His dad gives him empty threats and when I call him out on it (later on privately) I get "I'm trying." I told him to sit on his bed until his father got home. He did, but what I didn't realize is he was upseting the youngest with his crap the entire time. I left when hubby got home and took the girls out to eat for a first day of school treat. What happened when I got home? He put on those kid gloves he likes to wear, and then pampered his little butt with "chatting" about everything under the sun EXCEPT how he was hurting his sister, how he lied, how he said he was going to try (and he's not, got confirmation tonight about that), or how he was destroying property. He gave a bunch of empty threats and sent him to bed.
Now what? I can't live like this anymore.