Disapprove of friend who always wants to drive around
My 16 yo DD has a great group of friends, however, because she is at a parochial HS, they all live in different directions. There is a girl who she went to middle school with that lives close by. They were never that tight but I think because she is close by, we are seeing more of her. The problem with her is that she will look you right in the eye and lie. When you call her on it, she will just make up another lie.
The problem has gotten worse this summer because she got her drivers license and is always calling my DD to go out and do things. Her parents gave her a car and there is very little supervision. We have told my DD in the past that her friend is welcome here but since there are rarely parents at her house, she cannot go there.
The driving has brought a whole new dimension to this relationship. Usually, we tell her that we are uncomfortable with her friend driving because she is such a new driver. One time they said they were going to the movies and apparently decided they would go out for frozen yogurt instead. This is very typical of her friend, saying one thing and doing another.
At this point, I'm not sure what to do anymore. Are we doing the right things? Should we give her more freedom with this girl even though we know she lies all the time about what they are doing? Everytime thisgirl calls, it turns into a huge fight.
Our concern has more to do with our DD hanging out with this girl who is a chronic liar. The driving thing has just made it more difficult since before, the rule was my DD could not go to her house, they had to come here and so her friend really never came over.
Another example of her lying...on the 4th of July she wanted to go to the parade, hang out at the festival grounds, and stay for the fireworks. The only concern we had was that her friend was a brand new driver and it would be late at night when they would be leaving the fireworks with all the crowds and people who had been drinking all day. She told us that her parents were meeting them there for the fireworks and they would then drive them home. Of course, when we phoned her parents, they had no idea that they were supposed to go to the fireworks.