Need advice on soon to be 14yo DD (sorry if this is long) ETA
Soon to be 14yo DD has this phone that I bought & I pay for the minutes on, so I take the phone every once in awhile & read through things. Well the other day my 12yo DD was home sick (I couldn't call off due to being short staffed) so I told ODD to leave her phone so YDD had a way of calling my parents if needed (they live 10 mins away from me).
While reading through the phone I see KiK messages about a boy at school. Apparently he has asked DD for pics. When I asked DD what kind of pics (knowing full well what kind) & she says "They're just pics mom". So I said "If he wants a pic of you he can take his phone out & snap one there at school" & she says "I know". So again I look through the phone & see that she told this boy she needed to be in a relationship first. WHAT?! I mean on one hand "Darn tootin'" but on the other hand "NO!".
Then I find her journal on her phone. It comfirmed pics of her in her undies. Then it turned to birthday suit pics. I also found out that this boy was pissed at her for not giving him the pics & because he is mad at her he blocked her from this KiK app (which BTW I deleted her app). DD mentioned to her friend that she didn't have the boy's phone number (which is true from looking through her phone).
So I emailed the principal of her school because I figured this was all happening at school (because she said she didn't have his number) & just wondered if there was anything she could suggest or even do? She emailed me back saying she would contact the boy's parents & have a conference with them about it. She is also blocking that particular app from the school internet access.
Other than talking to my DD & taking her phone what else can I do? I feel like if I don't do something she will end up on 16 & Pregnant! I did ask my 17yo DS to talk to her. He is pretty much the male head of household here (their dad & I divorced over a year ago & the kids barely see him). And I know he has some influence on DD. He is very active in our church youth group & might be able to get her to understand God's love is greater than any man can ever give her. I just am at a loss with her!
ETA Thank you so much for all your advice ladies! I really appreciate it! I am going to have a heart to heart with her about it. And I am setting up her parental controls now.