My daughter is 16 (junior). She got a new boyfriend with the new school year. They went out to celebrate their 1 month anniversary this past weekend~~~sooooo, as you can see it is a very new relationship. The boyfriend is a sophomore. He's a great kid and seems very respectful. We have seen on Facebook as well as heard small comments that have slipped out that he is totally in love with my daughter and seems to have the idea that they will be married and he will be taking care of my daughter forever. My husband and I have just looked at that as cute and thought "oh they are so funny. They have no idea what love is after a few weeks of dating.) But it has been very cute.
He friended both my husband and I on Facebook and everything I see looks good EXCEPT his music. I have noticed that on that side bar where it tells you what people commented on, likes, looked at, or listened to he keeps listiening to a lot of music on Spotify. That is no big deal because it looks like a lot of the kids listend to Spotify a lot. Anyway, last night I got the idea to just YouTube some of the songs I see he is listening to and I DO NOT LIKE HIS SONGS. I don't care that it is not my style of music, what I care about is the cursing and talk of what should be humiliating talk of women in the music.
After I heard the music he was listening to last night, I decided to take a look at my daughters cell phone (texts and such.) My daughter is very aware that we will do this from time to time. Anyway, I didn't see anything bad but I did see how much more in depth each of them went with their "I love you's" and I also saw their some of their plans for their future family plans. They are already planning for their marriage right after high school and how many kids they want, etc.
They are talking about their guidelines for their relationship and marriage and really heavy into it all.
I know it's all crazy and we really do like the boy. How do we go about slowing things down and bringing them back to reality?