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Hi everyone! Im jenna, and i have two kids, Savannah who is 16, and justin who is 8. My daughter savannah has two kids herself. twins, Kale, and Kaidyn. Theyre 4 months old.
Last year, in the spring, i found out that my daughter got pregnant by her gay best friend at a party where she drank alchohol for the first time. I blamed myself, and i felt like the worst mom on the planet for allowing it to happen.
It wasnt until she approached me after a month of avoiding her saying that she needed her mom. She told me it wasnt my fault and reminded me why im a good mom. and i accepted that. my husband i i only let her go to that party because we trust her. What happened was an accident, and she really grew responsible and into a great young adult when she decided to keep her babies. she got a job, even against the babies fathers being against it. but, she is a wonderful mother. Very wonderful.
But, when she was 7 months pregnant, she got a boyfriend.
and history is repeating itself......... she is pregnant now again, when she already has her 4 month old twins. she told us at dinner last night, and then she ran out and to her condo with her babies fathers.
She is coming back home for dinner this weekend, and i dont know what to say to her...... I want to be sooo angry...HOW COULD SHE LET THIS HAPPEN!?
but i want to support her too... but i am torn..... im so upset.... shes too young, and completely not ready for ANOTHER baby....
With her twins, the last time, the situation was so different. It really was nothing but a drunken accident.. She wasnt completely held too accountable, because she didnt know much about what she was doing........ but this time, she planned to sleep with her boyfriend. it was just ..... she was simply being irresponsible......
She doesnt live completely at home, and she is a mother. i mean, i cant ground her. i just dont know what to say.
any advice fellow moms?
what would you do?