I'm not a mom but have tried to conceive. I will find out the results Sunday. Anyways, My parents said i grew out of this phase at age 6 when my brother was born...my brother is only thirteen and practically has my parents by the hair.
I have tried to help but my parents refuse to let me. So I watch my brother walk all over them. They spend hundreds of dollars every weekend so he can race his car at a little race track. Never once a thank you and never once has he been happy with everything they do. He actually complains after every single thing that he does that's amazing.He spray paints everything, including the trees and things on the porch and my dads prized pocket knife that he keeps put away. He draws on the beautiful counter tops with permanent marker. He cuts up everything, including my mothers photo box to make a large toy car. He talks back, demands money (which he is always given), He seems to freak out and try to hurt me when I clean up his mess around the house... This morning was a very large mess of cars and pillows all over the living room. As I came into living room I saw his hat on top of the piled mess and he said "My hat better not touch the ground today", So I put it on his bed. He said "I bet you dropped on the ground". What do you do when a child is like this?? As he walked out the door he said I had to check his clothes for stains so he looks good for school. I picked off a couple cat hairs and said he was fine and I expect a thank you to be said to everyone who treats you this good. He just left. A few weeks ago he tied shoe laces to the ceiling face and turned it on. I stopped the fan, removed the crusty dirty laces and tossed them into the trash. He pulled them out and whipped my arm. I grabbed the laces and pushed him away from me. He had the nerve to say he would call the police. My reaction because I was upset with my skin raising from the incident was mimicking what the call might sound like, "Hello, police, I whipped my sister with shoelaces and she defended herself, you should take her to jail." I mean really, what does he think in his head when he does stupid stuff. I just cleaned the house yesterday. By the time my dad got home, the house was tore up from my brother and my dad expects me to spend my important college homework time cleaning. Between work, college, and home life I do as much as I possible can because I love my family and we live in a beautiful home that I hope to one day have for my own. But this destructive child is ruining the family bond and the family's possessions. Right now I'm glancing across this house and wondering if he will ever grow out of it. I know that he does this because my parents practically encourage it. I need advice on what I could do because my parents won't change and I want them to one day retire and live on the land they bought in Tennessee. please help, pretty please?