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Teen drug use- Your general advice afterwards PLEASE

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My husband found out today that my stepdaughter was suspended from school for having marijuana and a pipe in her bag TWO WEEKS AGO. Her mother decided it was best to have my stepdaughter tell us (GREAT plan) and the school never called us (only her mom). What is most effective approach 2 weeks later?  I feel like she already has been talked to about this by her mother for two weeks and completed her punishment with the school, and a teen will only pay attention to so much.  I know we have to do something, but I have no idea what is effective so late in the game.

by on Sep. 30, 2013 at 11:32 PM
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by Bronze Member on Oct. 4, 2013 at 7:22 AM
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Well, we started drug testing after we caught my 15 year old with pot and I dont regret it.   We told him we wouldnt pay for his hockey anymore if he continued to test positive.   We told him he could make dumb decisions when he's an adult and supporting himself, but we wont have him doing drugs under our roof while we are supporting him.   He has tested clean repeatedly.  He's very proud of himself and likes to tell us we are wasting our money on the tests because he will not smoke weed again.  Got his progress report yesterday--6   A's and 2 Bpluses.

by on Oct. 4, 2013 at 3:07 PM
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I don't think it's ever too late to talk.

Pot will make you lazy, it will affect your retention to do homework, it has to be very expensive these days, what about getting arrested and a whole lot more.

If you're talking about punishment, if the bio Mom never did anything I still don't think it's too late for that either. It's not your homes fault you didn't hear about it until so long after.

I personally think you should talk. I wish my parents would have gotten more involved and talked to me more.

by Shauna on Oct. 4, 2013 at 3:12 PM
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I think it's too late for consequences now but if I were your husband I would contact the school and make sure he is put on the list of contacts for school info, including report cards and disciplinary action with his children. The school will then send him duplicates of all paper work that goes home to mom. My friend's husband had to do this b/c his kids bio mom refused to share any info with him.

by Grumpy on Oct. 4, 2013 at 3:31 PM

If you feel like it was handled, I would have you and your husband sit down with her and explain that it hurts you that she doesn't feel that she can come to you with something like this.  Perhaps that will make her feel a little more open to you and let her know that you know too.

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