UPDATE: Could your kid ever be bad enough to be given to foster care?
Could you ever voluntarily give your kid to foster care? Knowing that the foster care system today is not the greatest, could you possibly give your kid up knowing that they would hate you and you wouldn't be able to see them until they turned 18, even if it is only for 6 months?
My son is well, let me think, prince and demon at the same time. He has been checked by numerous counselors/psychologists, as well as hospitalized for mental illness and every time is given a clean bill of health with no mental problems. Let's see, less than a week ago, he informed me that if he does not finish high school (through his own actions or getting kicked out at 18) he will kill himself (a usual threat which got him locked up more than once) but not before he inflicted "the most hurt you can ever imagine" on me. "More than if I ripped off your arm" is what he said. Then told me that when he does commit suicide it will be because *I* murdered him and that it would kill my youngest and I would be a murder of two people. I was pretty pissed off listening to this crap.
My youngest has a disease that stress causes incredible pain and she usually ends up in the hospital for it. Right now, husband and son are occupying the basement (fully furnished) and husband is in charge of almost everything when it comes to him. He saw me because he was outside and I went to get something from the shed. The girls are isolated from him to minimize the stress. The doctor is very upset about it all and contacted social services who asked if we wanted him placed in foster care.
It seems a little extreme to me, but I'm wondering if there are others who would consider this an option for their families. By the way, his latest outburst was not overheard by the girls who were on the opposite side of the house watching television so they didn't hear the outburst.
Update on page 3, post 30. Lengthy but worth the read.