My 17 y.o. joined a school group called Best Buddies.It is an organization that pairs kids with disabilities with a kid with out disabilities.The two go out or do something a couple of times a month.It is about increasing independence for the teens with disabilities.It brings benefits to both teens.My son was paired with a young man two weeks ago.He is high functioning autistic ,dyslexic and some other things.He is a nice boy...he isn't the issue ...his mom SMH.My older two also belonged and we never have had any issues.
My 17 y.o had a late little bday celebration.A group a friends to the movies and to a local pizza place on a Sun afternoon..He is paired that week and asks to include his buddy. Mom calls that Sat.She calls while I'm buying a car.I tell her ,she keeps talking ,I keep telling her and she keeps complaining we didn't call her to set things up ...on and on.Finally I tell her I have to go.
Anyway this past Sun the two guys are going to roller blade at the roller rink.She called complaining we had not called to set it up with her.I told her she was free to call us .She wants us to call her to set up all activities because that's what parents do.I just told her to feel free to call anytime.Then she went over to the president of the club's house and complained to her mother and the president about the type of parents we were.Our older kids are friends,Called us again and is apparently contacting other parents.I'm not setting up play dates for my 17 yr old.She can call and confirm any time.The complaining to others irritates me.If it wouldn't punish her son for her actions I would push my son to change but it's not the kids fault.
I don't want to gossip about her ,it could effect her son so I'm not discussing this with friends here. Is she right ,should we be setting stuff up or should we let the guys do it and mom can call to confirm if she wants.