For those who missed my reply regarding him doing his own laundry, rest assured he does know how to do his own laundry and does it whenever I ask. It just so happened that I was doing laundry that day and didn't mind throwing his in as it was only 1/2 a basket. And for the record, my10 year old is learning how to do his laundry and has done it a few times with supervision. All 3 boys have been folding/putting away their own clothes for years.
Regardless of WHO is doing the laundry though, all 3 boys know to empty their own pockets - and usually do.
I decided to not really punish him, but I'm no longer agreeing to do his laundry when it's convenient for the next month. For that month it's 100% his responsibility. After that we'll revert to how we've been doing it all along.
As for the phone, it was so cheap because we bought it with his upgrade. That was back in the Spring and he's not eligible for another upgrade, so we'd need to spend almost $200 for the full price phone. If we cancel his service, we have to pay the remaining months as a fee. We have no old phones to activate. DH and I are eligible for upgrade, so we'll be doing a cross upgrade with DH's phone that will activate with DS's number. This means DH has to wait until 2015 for his upgrade, but he doesn't really care.
Thanks again for all of your advice!
My boys - all 3 of them (14, 9, 7) - know that when they want me to do their laundry, they put their basket in the laundry room. They KNOW that it is their responsibility to empty the pockets as I won't do it.
Well, this morning my 14 yo put his basket in the laundry room. It was only 1/2 full, so rather than pull out each piece, I just dumped the whole basket in. If I had pulled out each piece I probably would have noticed it...and would have taken it out...but I didn't notice it.
What is "it" you ask? His CELL PHONE. Yup. Went through the entire wash.
So...we didn't have any rice laying around and we put it in the freezer as different sites recommended...though it might just be too late.
I'm SO frustrated...he is in a lot of after school activities, so I don't want him to be without a phone (yes I know we all did it as kids - but I also had change on my and used the pay phone all the time...we have no pay phones anymore).
So...what would you do (besides not getting him another phone) to punish?
(by the way - it's not a smartphone and it cost me 5 cents to buy)