So, i do random phone checks. Sometimes it's every week or so and sometimes it will go a month or so....depends on my mommy gut. Well, she has this new boyfriend. It's been about 2 weeks since they have been "dating". She is 14 and a freshman, He is 16 and a junior. Im not thrilled at all about this!!
So, after I notice her start to withdrawal and become even MORE obsessed with her phone, I decided to do a phone check. Read some of the messages back and forth with this guy and all pretty harmless stuff until he asked her if she was a virgin!. WTF? yes, she is a virgin and why the hell are you asking her that?? Well, I know why. Thank God she answered yes or we would be having a bigger problem here! She danced around the question first then answered and changed the subject. Later when I talked to her about it, she said she didnt know what to do or say. I told her to next time say that it's none of your business and then also to get away from the guy. If he's already asking that his intentions are not good. and so on and so on...
Well, after all the talking and all the drama over this....she is till talking to him. Only now she isnt telling me as much about what is going on like she used. to.
How would you handle this? My husband (step dad) wants to tell her that she is no longer to be talking to this boy and no more anything. I dont want to push her closer to him by telling her she has to stop seeing him. Im just trying to talk to her and give her words of wisdom from my experience. Wether she likes what i'm saying or not I know she's hearing me.