Daughter's friend issues at college, should she confront her roommates?(Update- i talked to her again)
My daughter is living in a triple in her colege dormand at the
beginning of the year all three roommates had the same grop of friends.at the beginning of the year she was so excited about all the people she was becoming friends with
However, she says when the rest of them have grown closer she's started to feel left out, especially because of one cliquey girl her roommates have spent more time with. Also, since their room is the biggest is the one the whole group of like 10 kids always hangs out in. She does not like how the group is almost always around, especially when she is feeling left out of it. she said that if they'd hang out anywhere else she'd just leave and go to her room, but since theyre in her room shes forced to be around people who kind of exclude her.They are there every night for a long time.
she wants to
tell her two roommaates that she can tell the group of friends does not
like her much, and that she isn't trying to change that, but she does want them to stop coming around all the time.
she asked me for advice and idon't know what to say; i get that this is stressing her out but also i think she might be thinking shes left out more than she really is, and she would definately be driving away new friends if she told her roommates she didnt want them to let the rest of the group of friends into the room.
(Update...) So I talked to her again (Thanks for all the advice!), and she's pretty much decided that she wants to tell her roommates that she does not like how her room is the only place the group hangs out, but she isn't going to say anything against people specifically. She really doesn't want to cut all the ties with eveeryone especially since it's just a couple of people being the most cliquey... She's just going to say that she's generally a pretty introverted person, and that she wouldn't spend nearly as much time with the group if they hung out somewhere else, and it's getting stressful how she doesn't have much time for herself, or her schoolwork.