OK back to my 17 year old son. I'm really stuck. We cannot afford a boarding school (after seeing how much they cost) and he cannot go to military school (since the only ones we found were college prep).
So far, he is downstairs in the basement with hubby (and ruining my marriage btw) and I am on the main floor with the girls. I am so sick and tired of the lieing and stealing. He steals little crap for no reason. He gets fed 3 meals a day (if they are not involving the rest of the family) and he still steals a 4lb jar of peanut butter and eats it all at school at lunch. Or rips off burritos from the freezer (he learned how to break into it even though it locks) and eats them on the bus KNOWING his sisters ride the same bus.
He lies constantly too. Today it was "I broke my glasses in gym". First of all, he doesn't have gym. Secondly I spoke to my girls and he takes his glasses off on the bus and shoves them in his pocket and then leaves them there until he gets home. No wonder he goes through them like a toddler would go through crystal goblets.
I am so frustrated, so upset, so stressed out. I don't know how to deal with him. Sorry if this is scatterbrained, but that's how bad I am. I don't sleep anymore (3 hours a night if I'm lucky) and rarely feel good. I'm not depressed, but just ready to give up on him.
As far as kicking him out at 18, I would prefer not, because honestly, I don't believe he would make it. I'm afraid he is going to say the wrong thing to the wrong person and end up dead in a ditch somewhere. He's mouthy and a coward.