update: It looks like my dd talked with the science teacher, he said he would call for her to re-take tests/quizzes but thinks he may have forgotten to do so, but says that my dd should have asked him again. Well, maybe so but he won't really own what he did anyway. Still my dd shouldn't have gotten disrespectful to me. We don't know if we will say yes to basketball at this point. Why is it always such a last minute decision?! lol What do you all do just only look at the final grade, not the F's, D's on tests/quizzes. I still say a C at the first quarter for a final grade is concerning esp since it's never happened. Statistics say only 1% of kids go on to get a sport scholarship anyway. Any other advice?
I need some help in some ideas on how to get a teen to follow our rules. My 14 yo dd gave me big grief this morning, just one thing after another. My dd didn't empty the wastebaskets last night like she is suppose to do. It is her job to do before the garbage man comes today. I said something to her last night that she hasn't done what she was suppose to do. I gave up on the reminding her as it became a constant thing and she wasn't learning anything by it. I shouldn't have given her a hint but I don't want to do it for her (that's what she wants). She went to bed without walking our dog also or emptying the waste baskets. She still didn't do it this morning or make her bed. I had told her she wasn't doing the things she is suppose to do, then she FINALLY emptied them & I again told her THAT IS WHY YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO DO THEM THE NIGHT BEFORE. She didn't make her bed which is totally not like her. I asked her when her grades would be posted. This is the end of the quarter and she has 2 F's & a D- and a D+ to get her science grade up to a B. We don't allow any C's the first quarter. She has a C- right now. Since this is only the first quarter and she has a pattern of going downhill as the quarters progress. I asked her when her grades would be up as she was to talk with the teacher and she said she had. She has been saying that they would be up for the past week and her grades are still not up. She said "when I get to school". I told her she wouldn't be going on Thursday to an event if they weren't. She told me "oh yes I will" she told me to shut up & went down stairs. She was in her room forever too this morning and poured a bowl of cereal and never ate it. I heard her pour the cereal back. I said you had plenty of time to eat it. I told her she didn't take her vitamins. She said she did. I think she threw her vitamins away which she has a pattern of doing. She just wants to do what she wants to do. We don't have very many rules or chores. If we did, I think she would have room to complain. HER ONLY CURRENCY IS SPORTS! Basketball is coming up & her Dad & I are thinking of keeping her out as the grades only plummet (like the past 2 yrs in basketball), when we get on her they go back up so we KNOW SHE IS CAPABLE. I am now thinking it's all stemmed from us not taking any sport away from her when she has acted up. She knew we wouldn't because we would let the team down (other players).