Is it normal for a teenage girl to seem to not just want but NEED male attention to be happy? My almost-17-year-old dd is happy and bubbly and full of energy WHEN a boy that she has her eye on is paying attention to her (usually by texting). If she goes for a day without hearing from said boy, she becomes sullen, withdrawn, and 'exhausted', and sometimes even develops headaches or other aches and pains.
I had another talk with her the other night about how amazing she is--beautiful, smart, talented, etc. How I know she is going to do great things in her life, and she doesn't need a guy to fulfill her dreams! She smiled and said I know, thanks, etc. But she had been hearing from her current crush almost constantly for 3 days. Then yesterday she didn't hear from him at all and it was back to tired and depressed by this morning. He goes to a different school half an hour away, so their only form of communication during the week is by phone/computer. She doesn't want to come across as a nag or overly-agressive, and she doesn't really know how this particular boy feels about her, so she normally waits for him to contact her unless she has something specific to tell/ask him.
She has a lot of guy friends, several of whom I'm fairly certain would be overjoyed if she showed romantic interest in them. But she is never interested in the boys who are readily available...just the 'players' who run hot and cold and tend to string along a bunch of girls at once. She seems to keep repeating the same pattern with these boys.
Why is attention from the opposite sex so darned important to her? I was not like this as a teen, but my mother says she was. Is it a personality thing? I'm introverted and she is very extroverted--maybe that has something to do with it? Anything I can do about it other than keep reminding her that she is fantastic with or without a boyfriend? I want her to focus more on school and choosing the right college! Would love to hear stories about your own teens and how you handled it. Thanks!